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JBinthe615 is offline JBinthe615 Post #1  July 27,2009, 8:51pm
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Well I have been matched with that girl about 8 days ago, and she contacted me. After 2 days we were in the Open Communication stage, we exchanged 2 messages each (she sent me one, then I replied, she replied again, and I replied again) after my last message which was mid-day Wednesday, no more replies at all. She actually checked my profile last Saturday.

So what should I do, I'm kinda confused on what to do next, because I'm actually interested in her. But at the same time I don't want to be too pushy.

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Ball is in her court. Give it a few days. If nothing than send her an email with an invite to chat or talk on the phone. If she accepts than invite her out for coffee to meet in person. Go from there.

If she does not respond I am afraid it's game over man...
 
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Ball is in her court. Give it a few days. If nothing than send her an email with an invite to chat or talk on the phone. If she accepts than invite her out for coffee to meet in person. Go from there.

If she does not respond I am afraid it's game over man...
I agree. If people are interested they should at least make the effort.
 
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So how long should I give her, until I contact her again. We're up to 6 days since the last answer as of today.
 
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Send her a message to the effect of 'If you're comfortable calling me my phone number is xxxxxxx. If you'd rather I call you instead, please let me know your phone number.' Or,.. 'May I have your phone number, I lost mine'.

Then it's in her court. She may be busy with other matches and you'll just have to wait it out. In the meantime, you need to communicate with other people too.
 
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I think if it's been 6 days its probably all wrapped up I hate to say. People who are interested make the time particularly in the early stage. I would move on. Go ahead and keep an eye out but you should still be looking right now.

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tweet37 wrote :
Send her a message to the effect of 'If you're comfortable calling me my phone number is xxxxxxx. If you'd rather I call you instead, please let me know your phone number.' Or,.. 'May I have your phone number, I lost mine'.

Then it's in her court. She may be busy with other matches and you'll just have to wait it out. In the meantime, you need to communicate with other people too.
Most women hate that and will not call. But after 6 days, it's fair for you to send her another e-mail and simply ask if she would be more comfortable talking on the phone or exchanging personal e-mail addresses.

Another thought - her subscription just expired? She would still be able to look at your profile but now she can no longer respond. She may be debating whether it's worth renewing or not, so don't rush to close her out.
 
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Thanks for your answer. It's hard to interpret whether she is interested or not... because I wouyld have thought that if she had not wanted to hear from me again, she would have closed the match, which she hasn't done.

Yah the idea that her subscription ended could be it. Or I also thought about the fact she might be testing my interest by not replying and seeing if I get back to her at some point to really see whether I'm really interested or not, do you think that could be it too? What do you guys think?

For the email, I'm waiting til tomorrow to get back at her, seeing that it will be a week, and I also the fact I got a lot of things to deal with today.
 
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I like tweet37's answer. At this point I would be waiting for the guy to step up his game: call me and ask me out.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
Send her a message to the effect of 'If you're comfortable calling me my phone number is xxxxxxx. If you'd rather I call you instead, please let me know your phone number.' Or,.. 'May I have your phone number, I lost mine'.

Then it's in her court. She may be busy with other matches and you'll just have to wait it out. In the meantime, you need to communicate with other people too.
 
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