How let the Man know you want to explore Sex with Him?

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ceec Post #1 July 26,2009, 9:28am

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Ok,I've recently met this man who is great so far.Stable,funny,decent(hate that word but true!).As some of you know,I have a PAST that's interfered in my physical relationships,

,so I've been working on that.Since we're all so different,I would like you all to deluge me with your advice about how to let this fellow know that sex is A GOOD THING in my opinion,and I want to explore IT with him.Some subtle way ?? Aside from dragging this guy into the bushes

........................Words,folks,I need actual sentances ! Be as straight forward as you want,I'm up for it !

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You can tell him exactly what you have said here...that things in your past have interferred in your physical relationships...but he has brought out the she-devil-clothing-ripping-lusty-lady that you really are ;-)

(ok maybe that wasn't subtle)

I am not sure words are necessary. Your body language says a lot. If you kiss and touch him he will get the idea soon enough.

D_Lion Post #3 July 26,2009, 9:51am

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I think you have two main avenues: first, you could be more flirtatious – add some innuendo into your conversation, dress a bit more provocatively, and let him take the next move. Maybe through in some jokes, along the lines of “is that kiss the best you can do?”
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j0hn8andy Post #4 July 26,2009, 10:20am

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Flirting and touching him are the things women do to signal men.

But really, the more you see him, I think it will just naturally come up (no pun intended!). Sooner or later, it always does...I would just wait and let it happen naturally.

Try not to stress.

avinash Post #5 July 26,2009, 10:35am

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ceec wrote :

Ok,I've recently met this man who is great so far.Stable,funny,decent(hate that word but true!).As some of you know,I have a PAST that's interfered in my physical relationships,

........................Words,folks,I need actual sentances ! Be as straight forward as you want,I'm up for it !

Now, now, don't discount the dragging him into the bushes, some men would love to have the women take charge like that

redevil999 Post #6 July 26,2009, 10:39am

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CJF wrote :

You can tell him exactly what you have said here...that things in your past have interferred in your physical relationships...but he has brought out the she-devil-clothing-ripping-lusty-lady that you really are ;-)

Hmmm Apparently word gets around

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Does he know about your past? Are you concerned that the activity may bring about thoughts of your past?

If no to answer #1 and yes to answer #2, you need to verbally communicate with him about it.

If those first two questions don't bring up any issues, a sensuous kiss and a nibble on the neck ought to do the trick.

littlebluemonkeymind Post #7 July 26,2009, 11:31am

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How about: "I'm feeling ready to move our relationship to the next level physically. I'm wondering if you feel the same." If the answer is yes, then if you feel the need you can say "There are some things about my past that have limited me in this aspect and I'd like to share them with you so that we can both relax and enjoy this as it progresses."

If that goes well, then proceed to the kissing and nibbling : )

I wish you all kinds of glorious joy in this adventure...but take care of yourself and make sure that's his number one priority, too.

Last edited by littlebluemonkeymind; July 26,2009 at 11:34am. Reason: I'm direct This is about as subtle as you get from someone who has done the bush-dragging routine more than once.

jayjay Post #8 July 26,2009, 12:07pm

...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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"Explore sex"....is that different than 'having sex'?

Michael1974 Post #9 July 26,2009, 1:21pm

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