thisguy86 is offline thisguy86 Post #1  July 26,2009, 4:52am
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I've been on this site for like, over 3 months and some girls have done nothing but close me. Some of those girls say that it's cuz of statements in my profile. I'm guessing it's the fact that I'm unsure about wanting kids. Someone tell me why kids are such a big deal, or why girls are closing me because of what my profile says. Why is dating so competitive and why do girls try to find reasons not to date guys?
 
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Three months is not a lot of experience, so I would not worry too much about that.
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Copy & paste your profile here and ask for honest advice and input.people will give their outside take on it, be prepared for honesty, from both the men and women. It's a great way to see how you come across to others
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I've been on this site for like, over 3 months and some girls have done nothing but close me. Some of those girls say that it's cuz of statements in my profile. I'm guessing it's the fact that I'm unsure about wanting kids. Someone tell me why kids are such a big deal, or why girls are closing me because of what my profile says. Why is dating so competitive and why do girls try to find reasons not to date guys?
 
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thisguy86 wrote :
I've been on this site for like, over 3 months and some girls have done nothing but close me. Some of those girls say that it's cuz of statements in my profile. I'm guessing it's the fact that I'm unsure about wanting kids. Someone tell me why kids are such a big deal, or why girls are closing me because of what my profile says. Why is dating so competitive and why do girls try to find reasons not to date guys?
Kids are such a big deal because procreating is a religious obligation to some while other people want to be taken care of when they are octogenarians, nonagenarians and centenarians. Others still just want to see themselves in their children.

I have absolutely no interest in having kids either. I just do not have that need and desire. You're unsure about having kids so you do not share the longing and motivation that others have where engendering kids is concerned. I understand why people want kids, but it is simply not for me.

I do not get the competitve part either so I am with you on that. Some create competition for themselves.

You said "girls" close you or try to find reasons not to date ... that's just it - "girls". A real woman would come right out and tell you what the deal is.
 
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You're getting closed because it's the real world. I only went to any kind of communication with 2 men in the 3 months I was on eH, and I think I'm fairly normal, at least at first...

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