No certain decision for a second dates...what to do?


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lilsun is offline lilsun Post #1  July 23,2009, 9:56pm
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So I went out with a guy last weekend and I actually drove to his area because I wanted to explore a new place. We had dinner together and well, wasn't sure about the chemistry thing, but he seemed to be talking more than me which is something I like about him. We ended up with a bit of an awkward hug towards the end of our date. I wasn't sure if he's interested in me or not to continue so I asked and so he said just text or call him. Then he knew that I'll be taking swimming class on Monday, so he texted me asking how I was doing with my swimming class.Then on Tues, I texted him. I didn't text him yesterday or today and he didn't text me either.

Should I continue to wait until he texts me or initiate in this thing? I wanted to see him the second time, but I'm not sure if it's too desperate to be texting people when they do not text me. And I was told by lots of my friends that you should let guys call you...well, I'm not sure how everyone in here is thinking? I mean, it's true...if a guy calls you then he's interested, but if he is not calling then he's not interested enough to even text/call you. But the thing is that he's in training to be a doctor, so he has a tight schedule (well, according to him). Umm, should I initiate by texting him still? Or do I seem desperate if I do so?
 
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If he is in residency, a thight schedule is a mild understatement and creates a whole lot of challenges to dating.

If you are really interested and think that you can handle his insane schedule, then you can either wait another couple of days to see if he calls you or you can call him and let him know that you'd like to see him again. Stay away from texting. Honestly though, if you don't feel the attraction, you are taking up some very precious free time of his for nothing.
 
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When a person is interested in some one, they WANT to get to know them, to be around them.
Try to remember that "dating" is just another word for meeting/ learning about a stranger.
Don't take his lack of contact /interest for any more than what it is... lack of contact/interest. If he wants to get to know more about you, he will contact you. It’s that simple.
Don’t analyze it, he knows you’re interested because you respond to him and have not told him that you’re uninterested.
You have no commitment to each other, continue dating others.
Push it out of your mind and continue on loving your life and the people who adore you already.
 
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