lh is offline lh Post #1  July 23,2009, 6:46pm
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I have been seeing a guy whom I really like. Aprox 3 months. He told me he is not out to settle down to one girl and flat out told me he sees others as well . Is there a chance with someone like this. He has been married 2x.. Did not talk about what happened in his marraiges
 
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lh wrote :
I have been seeing a guy whom I really like. Aprox 3 months. He told me he is not out to settle down to one girl and flat out told me he sees others as well . Is there a chance with someone like this. He has been married 2x.. Did not talk about what happened in his marraiges

I highlighted your answer for you in your own text. Reread it and you should be able to answer your own question.

Now, when you start dating a guy who says, "I am looking for a long term relationship hopefully leading to marriage", that is the one you will have a better chance with.
 
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When a guy actually tells what you don't want to hear - he is telling you the absolute truth. Listen to it and if that's not what you want, move on. If you sit around and hope he'll change....you'll be wasting a lot of time and walk away with a broken heart in the end.
 
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How would you answer this questiion, if asked by another poster?

And WHY?
 
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lh wrote :
I have been seeing a guy whom I really like. Aprox 3 months. He told me he is not out to settle down to one girl and flat out told me he sees others as well . Is there a chance with someone like this. He has been married 2x.. Did not talk about what happened in his marraiges
Be thankful he was honest and upfront. I wish everyone was this forthcoming with intentions.

You cannot change him...when he meets 'the one' he will no longer need this speech he gave you, and will be totally lost and in love, if that ever happens for him. He may be happy as a bachelor, and the two marriages may have scarred him financially, emotionally, and mentally.

In the meantime, you need to decide if you wil accept him as he is and just date him for the fun of it. You also need to worry about STD's because if he is dating so many other women, is he sleeping with all of them? Probably so...and condoms don't protect from every STD...though some think they do.

Spend some time figuting out what you want from a man. Will this relationship satisfy your needs? If not, move on and don't settle.
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[quote=legend29;684997] Be thankful he was honest and upfront.I wish everyone was this forthcoming with intentions.

You cannot change him...when he meets 'the one' he will no longer need this speech he gave you, and will be totally lost and in love, if that ever happens for him. He may be happy as a bachelor, and the two marriages may have scarred him financially, emotionally, and mentally.

In the meantime, you need to decide if you wil accept him as he is and just date him for the fun of it. You also need to worry about STD's because if he is dating so many other women, is he sleeping with all of them? Probably so...and condoms don't protect from every STD...though some think they do.

Spend some time figuting out what you want from a man. Will this quote relationship satisfy your needs? If not, move on and don't settle




You don't need my opinion here. This pretty much says it all!
 
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Icouldwriteabook wrote :
I highlighted your answer for you in your own text. Reread it and you should be able to answer your own question.

Now, when you start dating a guy who says, "I am looking for a long term relationship hopefully leading to marriage", that is the one you will have a better chance with.
DancingFool wrote :
When a guy actually tells what you don't want to hear - he is telling you the absolute truth. Listen to it and if that's not what you want, move on. If you sit around and hope he'll change....you'll be wasting a lot of time and walk away with a broken heart in the end.
IcecreamMoon wrote :
How would you answer this questiion, if asked by another poster?

And WHY?
legend29 wrote :
Be thankful he was honest and upfront. I wish everyone was this forthcoming with intentions.

You cannot change him...when he meets 'the one' he will no longer need this speech he gave you, and will be totally lost and in love, if that ever happens for him. He may be happy as a bachelor, and the two marriages may have scarred him financially, emotionally, and mentally.

In the meantime, you need to decide if you wil accept him as he is and just date him for the fun of it. You also need to worry about STD's because if he is dating so many other women, is he sleeping with all of them? Probably so...and condoms don't protect from every STD...though some think they do.

Spend some time figuting out what you want from a man. Will this relationship satisfy your needs? If not, move on and don't settle.
Nothing else needs to be said.
 
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Nothing else needs to be said.
Let's just hope she took the advice given, and can live with her decision...either way.
 
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legend29 wrote :
Be thankful he was honest and upfront.I wish everyone was this forthcoming with intentions.

You cannot change him...when he meets 'the one' he will no longer need this speech he gave you, and will be totally lost and in love, if that ever happens for him. He may be happy as a bachelor, and the two marriages may have scarred him financially, emotionally, and mentally.

In the meantime, you need to decide if you wil accept him as he is and just date him for the fun of it. You also need to worry about STD's because if he is dating so many other women, is he sleeping with all of them? Probably so...and condoms don't protect from every STD...though some think they do.

Spend some time figuting out what you want from a man. Will this quote relationship satisfy your needs? If not, move on and don't settle




You don't need my opinion here. This pretty much says it all!
Thanx...sometimes I do try to make sense of things, and give decent advice.
 
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Thanx...sometimes I do try to make sense of things, and give decent advice.



Just giving credit where credit is due...
 
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