bdavie is offline bdavie Post #1  July 21,2009, 4:54pm
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So I meet this great girl. First date goes incredibly well...she is calling and texing nearly immediately...thanking me. We set up a second date 3 days later - a sunday. She is texting me the night before...looking forward to the date.


Our 2nd date goes just ok...I make a few missteps - come to find out she knows of someone I dated indirectly and I didnt react the best to it...somewhat defensive (I was mortified). She told her friend dated her and knows all about her but doesnt tell me what her impression is.


The date overall went ok...I got a very nice kiss good night (our first). She really seemed to enjoy the kiss. She walked me to my car. Said she had a good time. We ended our night at about 1:30am. No texts or emails or calls since. Very disappointing given her prior behavior.


On monday night (yest) I left her a vm around dinner and got no call back. I sent her a text later in the night...saying i feel like I need to say something: "sorry I stuck my foot in my mouth, wanted to make a better 2nd impression, let me make you dinner at my house."


I got a text this am...saying "seriously dont worry..I tried calling you and it went straight to vm, no worries at all, swamped (which she is). I didnt respond.


I dont know what to do now. Clearly..it went well until mid way thru the date. I overreacted (not mad) to her topic about the ex. I brought up her former marriage in an odd way by just dropping a bomb "so when that was when you were married". There were a few other big misteps..commuicatively.


What do I do ? I felt the need to apologize to save face b/c maybe its not a big deal but maybe I killed a little spark.

She hasnt texted, called, or emailed since this am.


Need help. A mediocre second date shouldnt mean no third date. Maybe I've been too interested.
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  July 21,2009, 5:40pm
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On the bright side, your syntax is exemplarily.
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #3  July 21,2009, 7:09pm
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D_Lion wrote :
On the bright side, your syntax is exemplarily.

In my opinion, you are getting ahead of yourself and pushing this woman too hard, and too fast. I suppose that you are young, and she seems on your pace, but I would back things off. You could call again in a couple of days to invite her for another date this weekend. If she ignores that, I would just drop it.

Keep in mind, that in two dates, you should not have your hopes up, or be too “taken” with someone.
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Try not to over think this, and I'd take D_Lion's advice, because I think he's got it right.
 
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You are truly making a mountain out of a molehill. What you describe is pretty minor, but by constantly drawing attention to it and bringing it up, you are turning it into a major major issue. Please stop, take a deep breath, relax and call her in a few days to set up another date.
 
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I wouldn't have left that voicemail; no offense but kinda makes you out to have the kiss of death that is nice-guyism.

If she's not returing you calls/text within half a day she's lost interest. If it were me I'd move on if that's the case. No one is ever too swamped for a quick call to someone they're interested in, and have just met.
 
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bdavie wrote :
She hasnt texted, called, or emailed since this am.


Need help. A mediocre second date shouldnt mean no third date. Maybe I've been too interested.
You are stressing out because you haven't received communication within a half day? Or am I reading that wrong?

It was just the second date? Hmmm, far too much pressure on yourself to have the relationship work out.

A great first date followed by a mediocre second date? That could be worse than 50/50 for a third date. How bad was mediocre?
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Have you asked when it is best for her to receive calls? Emails can be more flexible, but they have their own issues for delays. Be patient.

Personally, I find texting to often be intrusive, limited in expression, and thus bothersome. To put is another way, here is my layman's revision of an old song: "Hey Prude... Don't make me sad... Just take text-ing, and make it BETTER..." (Actually, that is more likely my feedback to all the wireless services.)
 
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bdavie is offline bdavie Post #9  July 23,2009, 8:56am
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She called tues night for about 30 mins. I'm not upset that I didnt hear from in her in a half day...I'm upset b/c she was clearly chasing me a bit and if her pace of contact has slowed dramtically then I'm taking that as a bad sign. no ??

I'm also just beating myself up a bit for making so many missteps. I dont generally screw things up early in a relationship.
 
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"She told her friend dated her and knows all about her but doesnt tell me what her impression is. "

Am I missing a a pronoun somewhere in here? I don't understand this.
 
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