katcol is offline katcol Post #1  July 21,2009, 4:30pm
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Why do women, including me, stay with men that they know is not good for them? I lived with a man that don't like to help out with bills and don't do the manly things around the house. I stated he was only paying half the rent and wasn't gonna help with the rest because I have kids that live with us and his kids stayed with there mothers and he wasn't gonna be a sugar daddy. What was wrong with me?
 
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Oh, right, the definition of a good man is how much of your bills he pays.
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katcol wrote :
Why do women, including me, stay with men that they know is not good for them?

Ummmm.... probably because the sex is good?
 
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Are you still with this guy you resent so much? Sounds like convenience, period. Two lonely people who want to play house, save money, have someone around and have the "new" partner make up for the baggage they bring. He's bitter over his divorce and what that "cost" him ("no more sugar-daddy"). And you find his resultant laziness and cheapness irritating. Get rid of the bum, find someone who's not going to make you pay for his mistakes and bitterness
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Why do women, including me, stay with men that they know is not good for them? I lived with a man that don't like to help out with bills and don't do the manly things around the house. I stated he was only paying half the rent and wasn't gonna help with the rest because I have kids that live with us and his kids stayed with there mothers and he wasn't gonna be a sugar daddy. What was wrong with me?
 
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I knew a girl that was in a bad relationship that stayed with it for a long time because she "had always been in relationships and didn't know how to be single."
 
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Because some women somehow believe that the only way to be happy is to have a man.
 
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[quote=katcol;682005]Why do women, including me, stay with men that they know is not good for them?




Because of low self-esteem. You don't think you can do better. You don't think you deserve better. So you take what you can get.

Trouble is, when you stay there, you just reinforce that thought process. Abraham Lincoln said "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

You have the power to control your destiny, and make your life be whatever you want it to be. All sorts of people have overcome all sorts of obstacles, many of them far more difficult than your situation here.

Envision what you really want for yourself and your kids. Believe in yourself, believe it is possible. Drop the "bum". Then go for it!
 
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I think if you end up living with your significant other, paying 1/2 of all the bills is the right thing to do. It would not even have to be mentioned, I would ask how much do I owe this month, then transfer the money, no questions asked. After all if your living alone your paying ALL the bills yourself, what makes you think it not fair to share in ALL the bills if living with someone. As for staying with someone you know is not good for you anymore, the only thing that kept me and the xwife together for the last 5 years was the sex, it was mind blowingly amazing. We were still doing that for 6 months after, was the last thing we let go of. Oh yes, I did love her deeply but that was not enough and I know that now more then ever. I now realize we never had anything in common and wonder if we truly even liked each other. I was married 18 years, makes you wonder, huh? I met her in high school, fell in love, married early and didn't know any better on what a complete fulfulling relationship was.
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Sadly, I see this situation with both men and women. The reason why they stay with the "he-bum" or "she-bum" is because they dearly enjoy getting half that rent check. They think "OMG, what am I going to do if I have to pay the full rent all by myself". These people "count on" this money so they can enjoy buying all those materialist things that they think they need but don't.

I'm not saying this it the OP's problem. Rather, I'm just giving an account of several people I know who stay in relationship for the money.
 
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