Drea is offline Drea Post #1  July 18,2009, 5:08pm
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So I know we all all here for the same reason, and that's to meet someone. But here's the thing. I'm overweight and I am afraid of rejection so I won't make the 1st step in communicating. I know this sounds stupid but should I just be brave and take the chance of rejection if I read match profile that I am really interested in? I made sure I posted pictures that are current. I am hoping that people look at the pics and if not interested will cancel. By not sending 1st communication am I possibly missing out on "the one" because of my fears?
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  July 18,2009, 5:35pm
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Uh, duh.

By all means communicate with those matches you're interested in.

Really, I see these as unrelated issues, however. You will sometimes get rejected for weight and sometimes for other reasons; and you will often be ignored with no response, like the rest of us.

None of that is related to who initiated.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #3  July 18,2009, 5:58pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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By all means initiate communicate. And, don't fret when you get very few responses. Even beautiful people like myself get few responses. ; )
 
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Absolutely, 100% get out there. You might remember a rejection for a few days and very rarely a few weeks. But when you meet that person you remember them always.
 
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Drea is offline Drea Post #5  July 18,2009, 6:12pm
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Thanks, that makes me feel much better. Just being days into this I'm not sure how it all works and seeing several matches with no one communitcating I thought that EVERY single person who looked at my profile was not interested.

Thanks.

Guess I'll take that first step now
 
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If it helps, have a stiff drink first .

Seriously, everyone gets rejected. It's no big deal. It's not the rejection that matters, but how you handle it. Good luck!
 
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chrlesmd wrote :
If it helps, have a stiff drink first .

Seriously, everyone gets rejected. It's no big deal. It's not the rejection that matters, but how you handle it. Good luck!
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and Cheers!
 
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Drea is offline Drea Post #8  July 18,2009, 8:51pm
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Yea, I think I will have to take that stiff drink. I think I hear that bottle of whiskey calling my name Haha. I just didn't realize how hard this whole on-line dating thing would be...but after reading several other posts it looks like I'm not the only one that has issues so that's a little comforting.

Thanks for the advice guys.
 
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Drea wrote :
Yea, I think I will have to take that stiff drink. I think I hear that bottle of whiskey calling my name Haha. I just didn't realize how hard this whole on-line dating thing would be...but after reading several other posts it looks like I'm not the only one that has issues so that's a little comforting.

Thanks for the advice guys.

Just before you touch that bottle (again )...
Do you have any music playing in the background? It's an essential part of therapy!
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Drea is offline Drea Post #10  July 18,2009, 9:13pm
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Cheap Trick - I want you you to want me, is blaring in the backround for inspirationHA!
 
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