Finally found my soulmate

1. I don't believe in soulmates. I think that love is a choice and marriage a practical, legal agreement. It may be a difference in age or just in perspective, but that's mine.

1. I don't believe in soulmates. I think that love is a choice and marriage a practical, legal agreement. It may be a difference in age or just in perspective, but that's mine.

2. You talked with this guy for 18 months before meeting face to face. That's too much time and energy to invest is what is essentially a fantasy relationship. There is, in my mind, no such thing as love without time shared.

3. There is nothing to pursue. He has shown his level of interest (rather crudely) by his actions.

4. No one is going to be able to answer for you "what is going on" because he is the only one who knows, and he clearly isn't interested in sharing that with you.

Let it go. Look for real people to get to know. As much as I love the internet, and I have made good friends through this medium, the people at the other end of the phone/email/IM/PM are basically strangers until there is considerable time and effort expended in building an actual relationship. Even then it is, in most cases, a more tenuous connection than those we share with people we've known face to face and then perhaps move away from and keep in touch with.

1. I don't believe in soulmates. I think that love is a choice and marriage a practical, legal agreement. It may be a difference in age or just in perspective, but that's mine.

2. You talked with this guy for 18 months before meeting face to face. That's too much time and energy to invest is what is essentially a fantasy relationship. There is, in my mind, no such thing as love without time shared.

3. There is nothing to pursue. He has shown his level of interest (rather crudely) by his actions.

4. No one is going to be able to answer for you "what is going on" because he is the only one who knows, and he clearly isn't interested in sharing that with you.

Let it go. Look for real people to get to know. As much as I love the internet, and I have made good friends through this medium, the people at the other end of the phone/email/IM/PM are basically strangers until there is considerable time and effort expended in building an actual relationship. Even then it is, in most cases, a more tenuous connection than those we share with people we've known face to face and then perhaps move away from and keep in touch with.

My nature, and I'm sure some will disagree with me, would be to send him one more e-mail asking what's going on and why the silent treatment? (No more than one more or you will be perceived as a stalker.) Chances are you'll still never hear from him again. Actually, I've had situations like this and in my last e-mail to the guy I say "I thought you had more integrity than this. I guess I was wrong."

Men value their perceived integrity, and to know someone else is questioning it should make them think twice about "poofing" on a woman again in the future. If they really do have any integrity, that is....

I'm sorry to say your man is probably gone for good, and you'll probably never get a good answer as to why. Very likely he just wasn't as into you as you were into him, he felt uncomfortable with that, and rather than say or do anything he took the coward's way out and disappeared.

It svcks, it hurts, and it's happened to a lot of us. I'm sorry it's happening to you now.

Hi,
Can u ever imagine to finally found your soulmate?!! I was soo excited that a year a go I finally found my 'too good to be true Prince Charming soulmate'.

He just like exactly what I ever dreamed about; with that skin tone, with that hair, with that personality, with that perspective, similar point of view, etc.

First time we met, he showed so much interest to me, even he wanted to know about the meaning of my name. After 18 months, we finally had our first lunch together. He told me that he always happy to see me and he enjoyed spending time with me. We had good conversations, he often looked at me in the eye with so much passion and interest. Made me nervous! I felt like going back to the those puppy love moments at Junior High.

We were really enjoying talking about life, about our passion in medicine, about love and marriage and because he kept bugging me, I finally told him about my ex-husband who was an abusive man and about how we finally got divorced. But I haven't got a chance to ask him about his divorced and about his ex-wife.

Everything was so great that I felt like flying to the moon even a week after that lunch date. I sent him a message via Facebook about how I always enjoy spending my time with him and he replied that he felt the same and wishing me to have a lot of good luck for my career.

Everything was so great until 2 weeks ago, he kicked me out from his facebook friendlists and he did not response to any of my emails. I wonder why he did that. I'm still interested to pursue this relationship with him in the future but don't know what to do and currently puzzle up with his 'suddenly changed attitude'. Could you please let me know what exactly going on and what should I do about it? Thanks in advanced.