maddiemo is offline maddiemo Post #1  July 15,2009, 5:39pm
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I just started an open communication. When should I mention that I have multiple sclerosis? I am fully ambulatory at this point in time but that may change in the future.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #2  July 16,2009, 1:53pm
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You should mention it in your profile information.
 
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Yeah, mention it in your profile.
 
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I wouldn't mention it in your profile. You are basically healthy now and your disease is not affecting your ability to date. Why mention it until you think you might actually be interested in someone? That could be at some point during open communication, or after you've gone on a couple of dates.

If your disease were more advanced and affecting your mobility (or obvious to someone upon meeting you), then I think it would be more important to mention it earlier on so your date wouldn't be taken by surprise upon seeing you at your first meeting.

There is another recent post around here by a man who is concerned about when to mention his atherosclerosis (or whether he should even date at all given his disease). You might want to look at at the responses on that thread, too (here: http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...al-issues.html (Honesty & medical issues))...
 
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I'm with NearDC on this one. Be sure to check that other thread.

Good luck.
 
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If you have ever known someone with MS you will know that it almost ALWAYS does affect their mobility at some point in the future.

I would want to know something like this way up front.

I watched a friend go from not knowing what was wrong with her to being able to function well only a few days out of the week. She is now permanently disabled. This is extremely important to know when considering a long term relationship.
 
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zal is offline zal Post #7  July 17,2009, 9:22am
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maddiemo wrote :
I just started an open communication. When should I mention that I have multiple sclerosis? I am fully ambulatory at this point in time but that may change in the future.
There is no need to disclose the ms until you feel comfortable doing so. If the relationship seems like it will become serious, then it would be wise to let him know. Telling him too soon may cause him to bolt. If you wait, at least he will see that you are not defined by your m.s. Of course, he may not be able or willing to accept it, but after getting to know you, he may be more willing to accept it.
 
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I agree with Zal, it really isn't something you need to discuss until you feel ready
 
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I'm in agreement with the others that say meet this man first then see what happens. You are meeting for the first time, if things progress from there (and I hope they do!) then you need to decide when and how you tell him. You are not in a relationship at this point. You are two strangers getting to know each other.
 
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For all those responders that did not pay attention to maddiemo's profile she is a he, therefore the people he would be dating most likely are women.

As to your question, if I were in your shoes I would include the ms towards the end of the profile. The reason I say this is because you could have a relapse at anytime especially during times of extreme trauma or stress. Good luck
 
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