tonigirl is offline tonigirl Post #1  July 12,2009, 11:20am
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Okay people, I need your thoughts. I met a guy on EH about a year ago. He lives in a different state and is finishing up grad school. He's been out to see me about 6 times in the last year. We talk on the phone all the time. Once school starts again this fall, it may be months before I see him again. As far as I know we are only dating. Am I wasting my time? Is being busy a real reason or just and excuse?
 
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carose is offline carose Post #2  July 12,2009, 11:30am
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My question for you is have you both decided to be exclusive? If not, then you should be dating other people. And remember that YOU and only you can say if you have that tummy flipping love or not.
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Ronit is offline Ronit Post #3  July 12,2009, 12:14pm
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I agree with what Carose said, plus you need to ask yourself if you really think a long distance relationship is worth it for you? And are you or him willing to relocate in the future to pursue this further after he's done with you studies?
 
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I would have a serious talk with him. If neither one of you are willing to move then you should just move on. I think if you are single with no kids then yeah being busy may just be an excuse. Now that I think about it, I use that excuse a lot when im not interested in someone and they keep wanting to hang out or go out.
 
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Hey, as a grad student, YES! Being busy is a real excuse. My friends joke and give me a hard time about "making time if you're really interested." Frankly, there are times when I'm very interested in certain guys, but school is a priority for me (hence why I'll never complain about being single). Whenver I have to choose between going out on a date on a Friday night or preparing for a presentation that I have on Monday, I opt for the latter

How about having a serious conversation with him about where you stand? If you're thinking seriously about this guy, then it'd be worth asking him whether he sees a future together (after a year, he probably has figured it out). You know him well and can determine whether it's "that time" to have the conversation... His response may help you better determine whether to continue investing time in him, or move on.

How about dating others if you two aren't exclusive? If this guy is everything you're looking for but he's not ready for something serious, then it may be good to start dating others as well (just be sure to let this guy know so you're both on the same page and there aren't any misunderstandings).

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I think it's important to be exclusive and in a long term relationship before being in a long distance relationship.
 
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