Ronit is offline Ronit Post #1  July 12,2009, 10:40am
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Hi guys, I was recently matched with this girl on EH and we've been talking back and forth via text for a couple weeks now. Last week I asked her if she would like to go out sometime and she agreed to go out for a drink tonight even though she's not the drinking type, which I thought was kind of odd. I tried to start talking on the phone with her but every time I called she would not answer or call me back but respond via text message and lately she's not as responsive on text messages either.

Yesterday I tried to confirm our date for today and she said it was still on as long as she didn't get stuck at work again(she was at work at the time yesterday.), I didn't think much of it at that time but this morning I get a message from her saying that she was out late last night and had to go in to work today on 2 hours of sleep and would like to take a rain check for a later date unless I would like to do something that required "No motor skills".

Do you guys think she's just putting it off? Should I continue pursuing her or should I tell her how I feel. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
 
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I can't speak to weather this girl is interested or not, but she is not being very nice. If you really think there might be something there, tell her how you feel. If not I would move on to somebody who treats to better.
 
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It seems like if she was truly interested, she would make time to meet you.
I would move on. Let her get back to you. That will give you a better idea about her interest.
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Maybe she's just nervous but it sounds like she doesn't want to meet up in person.
 
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I'm thinking she either is nervous or is having second thoughts and may not be interested. Whatever the case, if you truly want to meet her, respond with a text along the lines of "that's fine, why don't you tell me what works for you?" and leave it there. In the meantime, I wouldn't hang my hopes on her and I also wouldn't rule out any matches who may have potential.
 
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I agree with the others, she does not sound too nice. I say move on
 
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brneyedangel wrote :
I'm thinking she either is nervous or is having second thoughts and may not be interested. Whatever the case, if you truly want to meet her, respond with a text along the lines of "that's fine, why don't you tell me what works for you?" and leave it there. In the meantime, I wouldn't hang my hopes on her and I also wouldn't rule out any matches who may have potential.
Thank you so much for the great advice guys, I texted her something along the lines of what you said and she responded with a sorry and that she does want to get together. I'll just play it by the ears and like brneyedangel said not rule out any matches who may have potential
 
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Well, I think she is already not setting a good example. She wasn't even promising that she could get away from work so the whole date was up in the air from the start. You are obviously not a priority and to start off that way before meeting is very bad.

Interestingly enough, I just got back from a date with a guy and he had ended up working late the night before (casino dealer) and had only 3 hours of sleep. When he mentioned it to me, I said "Oh, you could have rescheduled" and he said, "no, I made a commitment to the date so I wanted to keep it".
So, there you have it.....

Maybe you can give her one more chance to get together. something tells me however, she might be one of those people who keeps the cell phone out and answers it no matter what, while on a date too.

If you do end up going out with her, it would be interesting to see if my prediction comes true.....
 
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Well, I think she is already not setting a good example. She wasn't even promising that she could get away from work so the whole date was up in the air from the start. You are obviously not a priority and to start off that way before meeting is very bad.

Interestingly enough, I just got back from a date with a guy and he had ended up working late the night before (casino dealer) and had only 3 hours of sleep. When he mentioned it to me, I said "Oh, you could have rescheduled" and he said, "no, I made a commitment to the date so I wanted to keep it".
So, there you have it.....

Maybe you can give her one more chance to get together. something tells me however, she might be one of those people who keeps the cell phone out and answers it no matter what, while on a date too.

If you do end up going out with her, it would be interesting to see if my prediction comes true.....
I definitely agree with what you said and I have a feeling you may be right about it .. Well I should've picked up on the first sign when I was the only one starting a conversation even if it was via text and when she wouldn't pick up the phone and respond by text, so I decided to see how much she was really interested in me and didn't send her a message all day, mind you; I usually say something to her at some point during the day and it turns into a conversation but not a squeak all day today lol... She said she definitely wanted to hang out but I'm starting to doubt it now. We'll see how things work out and if she is really that interested.
 
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Even if you hook up, she sounds unreliable.There's too many people who say yes to everything, live in the moment, and never keep their word ...well ..because a better party came along. For a hook up maybe, but this is a party girl..
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I definitely agree with what you said and I have a feeling you may be right about it .. Well I should've picked up on the first sign when I was the only one starting a conversation even if it was via text and when she wouldn't pick up the phone and respond by text, so I decided to see how much she was really interested in me and didn't send her a message all day, mind you; I usually say something to her at some point during the day and it turns into a conversation but not a squeak all day today lol... She said she definitely wanted to hang out but I'm starting to doubt it now. We'll see how things work out and if she is really that interested.
 
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