tiffany_case is offline tiffany_case Post #1  July 12,2009, 12:17am
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I have been so stupid throughout my relationship. We had a good relationship but I kept pushing him to give me more, and yet I knew he loved me so much. Now its ended, he finished with me because of my constant demands, hes had enough. I desperately want him back, he is even dating other women, I am breaking now. Please, someone, help me
 
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Some life lessons are harder to learn than others. You can't "get your man back" like he's some sort of possession. I don't know all the details of what went on, but he's made his decision and moved on. You need to absorb the life lessons you've learned from the relationship and move on, too. If you do, you will know how to behave properly in your next relationship.

I am sorry you're hurting. Keep breathing, take a break from dating until you've healed, don't obsess on him, and move on with your life.
 
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I agree with WonderWoman

Did you realize you were being obnoxious and demanding during your relationship or is this hindsight? You say he loved you so much so he probably tried with all he had to make it work, but you hurt him to the point he felt nothing he would ever say or do would meet your expectations, and you lost him. Typically, that's what happens.

You might want to think about why you behaved the way you did. Take a look inside yourself and figure out what you are lacking and why you expect someone else to alleviate it. I don't say this to be unfeeling but there is something there and I think you know that now.

You need to be content with yourself before you can be a good partner in a healthy relationship. If this is what you want you'll get there, it just takes work and a strong reality check.
 
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Do you want him back JUST because you are jealous? Or because you didn't find somebody as quick? Take time to think about yourself, your life what you really want. Let him be for a while, if he realy loved you and you stay friends he may come back.

Remember, let go of those you love, if they don't come back they never did.

(And I thought this thread was about revenge.. ha! :P)
 
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The father of my kids pushed me too far way to many times with his obnoxious behavior that I just lost any kind of feelings for him. So, he may be at that point where he just doesn't love you anymore and is tired of trying to make it work.
 
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