Is it normal to not be attracted to any of your matches?


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mari3434 is offline mari3434 Post #51  October 12,2009, 11:55pm
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What did you tell the poor guy after the date? LOL
 
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mari3434 is offline mari3434 Post #52  October 13,2009, 1:20am
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I was referring to the woman who talked about the goat under the train comment..lol. In any event, I am new to EH and also found that the majority of my matches are not attractive to me. Or, they live completely different lifestyles. I am beginning to believe that personality alone cannot guarantee a good match - there has to be chemistry and similar lifestyles for starters. It is definitely a numbers game or lottery - my last relationship (which was 6 years) was a success shortly after we met. I met him on another dating site and I met him after one to weeks of being on the site and we hit it off instantly. I know that I may not have that sort of luck this time around.....
 
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I agree that I am not feeling this eH works for me either. I have only been on a month and have closed over 200 matches, and about 50 matches closed me. I am not that picky and in fact I have dated men who looked like they have been in a train wreck, at least my friends have said. I have dated tall short, over weight, under weight, average looking, under-average looking, old, and young. I am not usually picky about appearances so much as I am personality. I thought eH would be great for me to choose the right personality for me, but after only one date whereas I felt picked apart by a guy whom my friends didn't find so attractive, and whereby physically this guy picked me apart to my face, from wow how tall i am (5'5" to his so-called 6') to wow you cut your hair. No wow you look nice, its nice to meet you, glad we got this far, nothing, but insult about my physical appearance. I look the same as my photo, and don't photo very well, and cut my hair into a gorgeous edgy cut, he might have said that with a smile, god! I feel a bit more picky now, and as though eH is not working for me either.
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I wonder if any of the people posting here got matched with each other? and each thought the other wasn't attractive enough for them to even send a set of bland questions to?

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yes. eH de-hottifies people.
 
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.. feeling my hottiness dribbling away ...
 
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Not only were his pics from at least 10 years ago (he is now a pasty-white old man about 75 lbs heavier)!

OMG! I think I went out that guy LOL!!
 
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calmascanbe wrote :
I agree that I am not feeling this eH works for me either. I have only been on a month and have closed over 200 matches, and about 50 matches closed me.
Wait till you're on a year and have 1400 matches closed. You have to give the process time.
 
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Most of my matches have been physically repulsive to me. And the few that haven't appear to be inactive account users.
 
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I clicked the "Find new matches" on my homepage and while it was searching a statement came up saying that eH does use attractiveness to match people. I wonder how they do that? I don't remember the initial personality profile questions; maybe there were questions where you rate your own attractiveness? Do they have software that analyzes photos?

It seems just as unlikely that I could determine a match's attractiveness based on their profile as that eH could determine it based on...what?
 
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