Is it normal to not be attracted to any of your matches?


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JoJoBean is offline JoJoBean Post #41  July 18,2009, 7:46pm
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The funny thing for me is that when viewing the matches pictures I do not feel an instant attraction, but several have looked much better than the picture reveals. I say... please don't put all your faith in a picture. You may get a nice surprise.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #42  July 18,2009, 8:04pm
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This has been an eye opening thread. It seems that the world is filled with shallow people and from the posts on this thread it seems that it is mostly the women. And the women complain that guys are visual and only looking for the gorgeous babes.

Truly amazing.
 
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While I get some matches that are quite obviously just plain unattractive by any measure most of my matches are rather nice looking in their photos. They also have some brains and values to back that up.
 
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OverAnalyzer wrote :
Regularly, and I read their profiles first. I'm also not going to lower my expectations to get matches, but it would be nice to get profiles from men who know how to spell simple words, talk in complete sentences, don't sound like their bike/car/truck/dog comes first or they live on Jupiter.
You forgot to mention their football team
 
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Wendy_BBW is offline Wendy_BBW Post #45  September 20,2009, 9:57am
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No, I don't think it's abnormal. Of course your talking to the person who shut off 10,000 profiles from her "viewing list" on match.com. I did feel bad about it later and brought them all back up though.
 
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Yes that is very typical. It has happened to me and my friends who have joined on-line dating services. In the past I joined 2 on-line services and I wasn't attracted to any of the matches because I was "matched" with people that did not fit what I was looking for and my complaints went ignored. So unless someone gives me a free membership I personally won't spend another penny on dating services. I don't have money to waste like that. I can have bad luck on my own and it won't cost me any money.
 
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NathanCM is offline NathanCM Post #47  September 22,2009, 6:34pm
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324 failed matches, probably 20 I found attractive, and maybe 10 I've found attractive enough to pursue. EH's metric on matching people of similar views on attraction just doesn't work.
 
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I have found some matches unattractive, but I am willing to give some of them a shot. For instance, I will give them a shot if I like their profile. I am sure I have been closed many times for being unattractive. Attraction is important no matter what anyone says, but some on here I think want some 9 or 10 person. I am not on here looking for some can't miss girl. If I find the girl attractive, then I do not care what anyone thinks. I am more likely to close a match because of their profile. I dated a girl a month ago, and many people considered her a catch. She was very pretty, but her personailty just made her not worth it. If a person is very attractive and has a personailty, then hey I am fine with that. I just need personailty before anything. By the way, I have noticed women are way more judgemental on looks than guys are from datings sites I have visted. Oh well, one day I will look like some famous celebrity actor hahaha.
 
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I am glad others have mentioned this as I was starting to feel like there is something wrong with me.....I have not been on eHarmony that long but I can't tell you how many men I closed due to lack of attraction from photos to what was written. I am trying to be open minded but it is hard...I am thinking of widening my search to the whole USA at this point? Any suggestions on this if it worked for anyone out there?
 
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lil_lamb is offline lil_lamb Post #50  September 22,2009, 10:49pm
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i've wondered if i saw the matches i got on another site, if they wouldn't come across as more appealing. 'cuz yeah, every one of my matches felt like death warmed over to me.
 
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