raykers04 is offline raykers04 Post #1  July 10,2009, 9:21pm
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[COLOR=black]Ok, this is all new to me. I never post on a blog or joined any discussions, but I just need some advice or opinion on something I have been struggling with for too long now. So here it goes...
 
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I vote for "call him!"

I think sometimes we give men too much power (or responsibility) and don't initiate conversations because we feel they should be the ones to initiate (I'm guilty of this).

I also think regret is far worse than rejection. If you call him and discover that (for some reason) he's not that into you, then you can at least move on knowing that you gave it a try. Conversely, if you never call him, then you'll probably continue wondering "what if?" In the long run, I'd be happier discovering he's not into me than wondering what things would've been like if I had gathered the courage to call him.

It's never too late to call him....but, if you need a clever excuse for the delay in calling him, simply mention that you "came across" his number, been a while since you last saw him, and thought to give him a call to see how he's doing. If he's a sweet guy, he'll appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Give him a call! I'm confident that (at the very least) you'll have a great conversation like you've had in the past (and yes, maybe some more flirting, too).


.....Best wishes
 
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Dee01 is offline Dee01 Post #3  July 10,2009, 10:08pm
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I agree - give him a call. I would not put to much thought into it. I would call him not expecting anything - just as a friend and let the conversation go from there.
 
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My best guess would be that you appear "cold" in spite of all your internal warmth. This is not completely wrong, it's just your natural defense mechanism to prtect your feeling from getting hurt (I used to be similar in my early 20's).

But coldness does not usually attract warmth and comfort, in fact it usually repells it right away. The only thing you will attract with coldness is a cold-hearted guy, who will play games with you and hurt your feelings at the end of the game. So use that defense mechanism if you smell a heart-breaker, not the genuinely nice guys.

It does not matter how "hot" you looked in that dress, if the guys sensed that you were cold (which can also be interpreted as arrogant and uanpproachable), he is not going to come too close to you.

If you feel that there is something there, give him a call, and be as warm and feminine as you can. Arrange a casual date, for which you do not have to wear a "hot" dress. In fact, dress casually and let your warm, natural, feminine beauty shine. Smile a lot, flirt a little (don't go overboard at first) and touch him him on the arm, that should do the trick

And Good Luck!
 
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call him! and i recommend watching a french movie called 'Amelie' with audrey tatou. it will put a smile on your face and leave you feeling like you have nothing to lose good luck!
 
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