skpowell3 is offline skpowell3 Post #1  July 7,2009, 5:04pm
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Well for the past 3 years I have had this "best friend", we would hang out everyday for the past 3 years, cook dinner together and occasionally have sex, so decided he wanted to date a girl he has seen in over 2 years that lives 6 hours away and has 3 children. So normally a person I would talk and text everyday a few times a day, decides not to talk to me or text me for the last 6 days then sends me and email telling me he is dating this girl and she does not like you texting me. I don't understand? Did I miss something along the way? Some advice would be good?
 
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The two of you had a friends with benefits relationship and the new woman in his life feels threatened by that, so she requested that he stop this relationship with you. He clearly complied with her wishes at least for now.
 
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this is why you dont have sex with your best friend.
as a woman it definitely puts thing on another level.
 
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The friends with benefits is not for you. Get a realboyfriend, who cares about you and wants the same level relationship. Why just get dumped when he finds something better and wonder why? Of course this other woman wants You, out of the picture. She's not willing to share him the way you did. quote=skpowell3;666143]Well for the past 3 years I have had this "best friend", we would hang out everyday for the past 3 years, cook dinner together and occasionally have sex, so decided he wanted to date a girl he has seen in over 2 years that lives 6 hours away and has 3 children. So normally a person I would talk and text everyday a few times a day, decides not to talk to me or text me for the last 6 days then sends me and email telling me he is dating this girl and she does not like you texting me. I don't understand? Did I miss something along the way? Some advice would be good?[/quote]
 
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The friends with benefits is not for you. Get a realboyfriend, who cares about you and wants the same level relationship. Why just get dumped when he finds something better and wonder why? Of course this other woman wants You, out of the picture. She's not willing to share him the way you did. [/quote=skpowell3;666143]Well for the past 3 years I have had this "best friend", we would hang out everyday for the past 3 years, cook dinner together and occasionally have sex, so decided he wanted to date a girl he has seen in over 2 years that lives 6 hours away and has 3 children. So normally a person I would talk and text everyday a few times a day, decides not to talk to me or text me for the last 6 days then sends me and email telling me he is dating this girl and she does not like you texting me. I don't understand? Did I miss something along the way? Some advice would be good?[/quote]
 
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The friends with benefits is not for you. Get a realboyfriend, who cares about you and wants the same level relationship. Why just get dumped when he finds something better and wonder why? Of course this other woman wants You, out of the picture. She's not willing to share him the way you did.
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[/quote=skpowell3;666143]Well for the past 3 years I have had this "best friend", we would hang out everyday for the past 3 years, cook dinner together and occasionally have sex, so decided he wanted to date a girl he has seen in over 2 years that lives 6 hours away and has 3 children. So normally a person I would talk and text everyday a few times a day, decides not to talk to me or text me for the last 6 days then sends me and email telling me he is dating this girl and she does not like you texting me. I don't understand? Did I miss something along the way? Some advice would be good?
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it's pretty clear what happened. as dancingfool said it, you had a friends with benefits relationship not a 'best friend' relationship. women tend to get more emotionally attached in situations like these which is why they hardly ever work out. you have to accept it for what it was and move on. think of it this way: if the tables were turned, would you like your boyfriend to have daily contact with a woman he's been intimate with on 'occasion' for the past 3 years? i know it might be hard to accept the situation but youve already wasted 3 years of your life on this guy, find someone who will give you the emotional stability you deserve. good luck!
 
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Well for the past 3 years I have had this "best friend", we would hang out everyday for the past 3 years, cook dinner together and occasionally have sex, so decided he wanted to date a girl he has seen in over 2 years that lives 6 hours away and has 3 children. So normally a person I would talk and text everyday a few times a day, decides not to talk to me or text me for the last 6 days then sends me and email telling me he is dating this girl and she does not like you texting me. I don't understand? Did I miss something along the way? Some advice would be good?
You don't even refer to him as a best friend yourself, putting the term in quotation marks in your own post. This relationship, while it may have been a close one, was basically friends with benefits, which is a very sticky situation when one person moves on, gets involved in a relationship, and leaves the other one behind.

While it's quite possible that this woman doesn't know the extent of your relationship with him, most women who are getting involved in a relationship with a man don't take too kindly to another woman texting him on a regular basis (and vice versa). You have to respect the boundaries here, accept the fact that he has a girlfriend now, and that he has chosen her over you. It's also time for you to move on and find someone who truly wants to be with you, because you deserve that, don't you? Let him do his thing, and find someone better suited for what you want and need!

Good luck to you!
 
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