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Ok..so here I go.

I'm 23 years old and still single. I have gone out only a couple of times on a date and none of them worked out. Since then I haven't really gone out on a date.

Now, I don't really know where to start or how to start to find the right guy for me. I'm always busy with work and study and sometimes don't have time to go out. Also, I don't really know where to go and meet new people and sometimes I'm a bit scared to ask guys out..even just for a coffee just to get to know them.

So what do I do?? I want to start finding my Mr. Right..but I don't know where to start. Any advice?
- July 5th, 2009, 06:00 am
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Stop thinking you're 23 & still single! Seriously. There's nothing wrong with being 23 & single. Just a little piece of unsolicited advice.

Now the real question of where to meet men. What do you like to do? When you do have spare time, what do you do with it? Do you go to movies, museums, art galleries? Do you hike? Ride a bike? Rollerblade?

Do the things you like to do. You are going to meet like-minded people doing the same. Even if you don't, you are still doing something you enjoy!

Don't worry about asking the guys out. If you haven't dated, I would advise you to let them ask you out first. At least till you get used to it. Later it won't be so awkward for you.

You're just starting out. You've got alot of good times ahead of you. Good luck.
- July 7th, 2009, 08:00 pm
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ina_j wrote :
Ok..so here I go.

I'm 23 years old and still single. I have gone out only a couple of times on a date and none of them worked out. Since then I haven't really gone out on a date.

Now, I don't really know where to start or how to start to find the right guy for me. I'm always busy with work and study and sometimes don't have time to go out. Also, I don't really know where to go and meet new people and sometimes I'm a bit scared to ask guys out..even just for a coffee just to get to know them.

So what do I do?? I want to start finding my Mr. Right..but I don't know where to start. Any advice?
Sorry, I'm taken.

But seriously, here's what you need to do. You first need to sit down and write down what you want in a potential mate. You need to differentiate between the "nice to haves" and the "absolutely must have in a partner". Like the heavy stuff, if they want kids, religion, good relationship with their parents, and so forth.

Good, now you've got your list. The next thing you need to do is sign up for a few free and pay online dating sites. I recommend eHarmony, mainly because I tried 7 online dating sites last year (4 of them being free ones), and I always felt that the people from eHarmony were good matches on the inside. Plus I met my current girlfriend on eHarmony.

Spend the time to put up fantastic pictures (it's all about having good pictures) and write a really good detailed profile.

That's the first step.

There's other steps too, like going out to meetup groups and spreading your social network (to let people know you're single and available), but once you do the first step, let us know, and we'll give the second.
- July 7th, 2009, 08:40 pm
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Well, considering I'm 36 and still single, I'm probably not qualified to answer this one...

But why do you worry about it so much?
Go on with you life - work, study, see your friends, go out with them. Socialising with a group of like-minded people, who know more fun and interesting people, has always worked best for me personally in meeting hunky, funny and intelligent men.

Unfortunately, I can't say the same applied to online dating, at least in my experience, but it works for other people, I guess. So, you might want to give it a try. I wouldn't at 23, that's for sure!

Good luck!
- July 7th, 2009, 11:15 pm
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i wish i was still 23 and single
- July 8th, 2009, 09:35 am
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When I was 23, I was happy to be single. Now that I am no longer 23, I am still happy that I am single.
- July 8th, 2009, 10:16 am
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I met my first husband when I was 24. Note the title "first husband". In retrospect, I probably wasn't quite grown up enough yet and my ability to chose a good one just wasn't developed yet.

Some people absolutely know what they want at 23, but give yourself some time. You're not an old maid or anything, at least not until you get to be... um... my age.
- July 8th, 2009, 02:44 pm
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Sucks being 25 and single.

Wish I was 23 and single
- July 8th, 2009, 05:31 pm
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Mr_Right has good advice. Stressing that you are 23 and single maybe is cultural/family pressure more than wanting to find a mate? I know in some countries most girls start married life at the age of 15 and this is encouraged in their circle...it also happens that these same girls don't really have any economic or educational opportunities. Many of my "sisters" marry off early as well which makes a woman like me...32 way past her prime but I am not too concerned. There are plenty of "sisters" who are older than me and were happy and content that they took the time to find the right person for them. Once you find that person you will be grateful you did not cave in under the pressure (the best decisions are not made under those conditions) because God willing the end result will be a healthy and long lasting relationship. If anything you might be burning your candle at both ends with work and study and need to find a balance between work and play for your emotional and spiritual health In pursuit of this you might just find that special someone.
- July 8th, 2009, 06:00 pm
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AsianFusion wrote :
When I was 23, I was happy to be single. Now that I am no longer 23, I am still happy that I am single.
I'm with you....there's nothing wrong with being 43 and single either!
- July 8th, 2009, 06:50 pm
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