Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Ask a Dating Expert See what our experts have to say, and then weigh in with your own advice. This discussion board is a great place to discover the wisdom of the group.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
adrienne6010 adrienne6010 is offline
adrienne6010's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 2

See profile

This man and I met in 10th grade,(1989) great friends, he was there when my kids were born. He has always been there for me. He tell me he loves me ? We have had bad relationships in the past with other people.We have fooled around a few times over the years, but nothing has ever come of it. I told him last year i counldn't do that anymore. We agreed so I thought, we both fail weak. But now he calls more often, he wants me to come over. ( It's always sex). He makes comment like, you are avoiding me now ,or you must be dating someone. He says he not good at relationships, and don't want anyone to try change him. I've never ask him to change...So what does he really want? What am I to think?

HELP
- July 4th, 2009, 10:36 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#1   Reply With Quote
Wonderwoman402 Wonderwoman402 is offline
Wonderwoman402's Avatar

Enthusiast

Join Date: Jan 2009

Posts: 715

See profile

It sounds like he's already got what he wants... a "friends with benefits" situation or booty call.

The better question is what do YOU want, and can this guy give it to you? If you don't want to be his FWB or booty call, then it is best to cut off the friendship and move on.
- July 5th, 2009, 01:52 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#2   Reply With Quote
Altair Altair is offline
Altair's Avatar

Enthusiast

Join Date: Oct 2008

Posts: 754

See profile

^ My thoughts exactly. Looks like he has the better part of the deal.
- July 5th, 2009, 02:54 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#3   Reply With Quote
adrienne6010 adrienne6010 is offline
adrienne6010's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 2

See profile

Sometime you just need to hear ,what you already know from and outside factor. I'm Done THANKS, I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR THAT.
- July 5th, 2009, 06:21 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#4   Reply With Quote
j0hn8andy j0hn8andy is online now
j0hn8andy's Avatar

j0hn8andy .....Take off the Rings.....That's the Goal.....

Enthusiast

Join Date: Jun 2009

Posts: 935

See profile

Wonderwoman402 wrote :
It sounds like he's already got what he wants... a "friends with benefits" situation or booty call.

The better question is what do YOU want, and can this guy give it to you? If you don't want to be his FWB or booty call, then it is best to cut off the friendship and move on.



I could not agree more.

Wise up!
- July 5th, 2009, 06:13 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#5   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

Icouldwriteabook Icouldwriteabook is offline
Icouldwriteabook's Avatar

Enthusiast

Join Date: Jan 2009

Posts: 533

See profile

Wonderwoman402 wrote :
It sounds like he's already got what he wants... a "friends with benefits" situation or booty call.

The better question is what do YOU want, and can this guy give it to you? If you don't want to be his FWB or booty call, then it is best to cut off the friendship and move on.
Ditto.
- July 6th, 2009, 05:12 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#6   Reply With Quote
Wiseman2 Wiseman2 is offline
Wiseman2's Avatar

Enthusiast

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 553

See profile

You answered your own question
adrienne6010 wrote :
This man and I met in 10th grade,(1989) great friends, he was there when my kids were born. He has always been there for me. He tell me he loves me ? We have had bad relationships in the past with other people.We have fooled around a few times over the years, but nothing has ever come of it. I told him last year i couldn't do that anymore. We agreed so I thought, we both fail weak. But now he calls more often, he wants me to come over. ( It's always sex). He makes comment like, you are avoiding me now ,or you must be dating someone. He says he not good at relationships, and don't want anyone to try change him. I've never ask him to change...So what does he really want? What am I to think?

HELP
- July 6th, 2009, 09:21 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#7   Reply With Quote
Mr_Right Mr_Right is offline
Mr_Right's Avatar

Mr_Right says check out the new profile picture

Virtuoso

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 2,874

See profile

Wonderwoman402 wrote :
It sounds like he's already got what he wants... a "friends with benefits" situation or booty call.

The better question is what do YOU want, and can this guy give it to you? If you don't want to be his FWB or booty call, then it is best to cut off the friendship and move on.
Excellent advice!
- July 7th, 2009, 05:34 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#8   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

« Where's my self esteem? | Array | Can't seem to let go »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“How do you present yourself in your profile? Do you have pictures of yourself being active? In what context does your weight come up (and where in the process)?” – neardc

Join the “Overwieght but physically active...” discussion

“From the beginning of this question, I've always wondered what it would be like if women did not work outside the home in this day and age. Maybe our personal choices, responsibilities would be ... ” – LivingBetterLonger2009

Join the “where men are financially now” discussion

“That's a good idea! Good thing I'm a very good Kisser!” – D_Lion

Join the “Is a Cruise a good Date?” discussion

“Anyone have some good advice for cluelessdude?” – neardc

Join the “Need a woman decoded please... help” discussion

“Did you answer her? Perhaps you need more time to think about it .... ” – Sassafras54

Join the “My match responded!!!” discussion

“I learned that I really don't want to move away from LA.” – Sassafras54

Join the “Latest discovery” discussion

“I personally don't use it and I don't think it would change the situation you are in now with this match.” – MicMan

Join the “Non Paying” discussion

“ That's wonderful!! Congratulations, hope it continues to go well for you both. ” – kevin76

Join the “Argh, screwed up with new guy.” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 12:57 pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0