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I always wonder what it means when people say a guy has a lot to offer a woman. I don't have a very exciting life (I don't know how to ski, snowboard, or even skateboard), I don't make or have a lot of money, I'm average-looking at best, and I have zero dating experience. Is it therefore accurate to say I don't have anything to offer a woman?
- July 4th, 2009, 09:47 am
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Are you funny? Maybe you can tickle her funny bone … or simply tickle her … or nibble on her neck a little bit, and see what happens?

Anyway, guys who would write “I have a lot to offer … bla bla bla,” probably do not. For sure, the pecking order matters to no end, but having the right character and values will be good enough for enough women to make you successful.
- July 4th, 2009, 10:52 am
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I sure wouldn't tell them I was unexciting, with no money, & nothing to offer! Who would be interested in that, male or female?

What is it about you that makes you unique, that stands out from the crowd? Don't tell me nothing. That's simply not true.

Each of us is a completely different person from all the rest. That's the good part! I am certain you have many good qualities. You just haven't enumerated them here. Figure out what it is you DO have to offer, your very best, then show that front & center!

- July 4th, 2009, 01:36 pm
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It all depends on what the person is looking for. Some want a Porsche, while others are happy as a clam with a mini-van.

You can go find a below average looking girl, who can't ski, sits on the couch, and has no money...or...you can learn how to ski, make a few more bucks, start doing a few more exciting things, and expand your possibilities.

Work on that confidence a little bit. Good luck.
- July 4th, 2009, 01:52 pm
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Get outside, read a book, read the paper and develop some interests to talk about. You would be surprised how few guys actually read or follow current events.
- July 4th, 2009, 08:30 pm
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I used to read a lot of books - probably two or three a month. I still read the newspapers everyday. It just seems most women are more interested in a guy who has exciting hobbies than a guy who has a high IQ. And I can hardly blame them! I just want to be more interesting. At my age (31), the few unmarried women who are left are in a hurry to get married, and they don't want to waste their time with someone who they can't imagine spending the rest of their lives with.

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Get outside, read a book, read the paper and develop some interests to talk about. You would be surprised how few guys actually read or follow current events.
- July 4th, 2009, 09:03 pm
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You can always learn to ski, snowboard, or anything else. And you can always get a well paying job. Everybody has to start at the beginning in the dating game just like you. The things one can have to offer a woman is kindness, truth and honesty, a gentle spirit, and a good work ethic, not to mention a loving heart. If you havee these you have already won half the battle. You just have to look past the materialistic and shallow women and find one that matches your offerings.
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- July 4th, 2009, 10:18 pm
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Are you kind and loving? Are you a good provider? (which doesn't necessarily mean independently wealthy) Are you honest and trustworthy? Will you treat me with respect? Can you make my heart do a little flip-flop when I see you or hear your voice? In essence, are you a good man who will cherish me and who I can cherish? If so, you have a lot to offer.
- July 4th, 2009, 10:34 pm
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BadAtNickNames wrote :
I used to read a lot of books - probably two or three a month. I still read the newspapers everyday. It just seems most women are more interested in a guy who has exciting hobbies than a guy who has a high IQ. And I can hardly blame them! I just want to be more interesting. At my age (31), the few unmarried women who are left are in a hurry to get married, and they don't want to waste their time with someone who they can't imagine spending the rest of their lives with.
Having a high IQ does not translating into being able to talk about interesting things on a date. I am not sure woman want a guy with some cool hobbies, just someone who is out there living life and being active. If you read a lot of profiles woman state they like to travel, are involved in some activity like running, biking etc.

In general most people lead fairly boring lives that is why we have movies, books, we travel and watch TV shows/sports. Life is not like the beer commercials with the most interesting man in the world. With that said you don't want to come across as the most boring guy in the world. What exactly do you do with your free time that comes across as boring?
- July 5th, 2009, 02:35 pm
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Nick, not having those kind of hobbies should not be an immediate “Close Now!” sign to the right kind of woman. What I think women really want (could be wrong here), is a guy with passion, stability, the capacity for joy, and who is able to make them feel loved. Hobbies are not passions. Remember your profile- what does it say in that first section? What exactly is it that interests you so much you'd drop your cheeseburger to go investigate? I don't think your problem is that you aren't interesting enough, it may be just a matter of communication. As others have said here, kindness, truth, and honesty are essential, what you do with your free time is kinda circumstantial. What drives you can be a strong magnet for the kind of person you want to notice you. I think people are attracted to those who *are* actively passionate about something- that, and a good, positive attitude can take you far. Good luck!
- July 5th, 2009, 03:06 pm
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