jimmycann is offline jimmycann Post #1  July 3,2009, 12:45pm
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Hello.

I exclusively use the IceBreakers when I decide I want to try and establish communication.

I NEVER get reponses or interest for my profile as I indicated on another thread asking "what am I doing wrong?"

Could it be that I need to go right into some questions when I see a woman's profile that I like?

Is it possible or easy to NOT SEE IceBreaker signals when logged onto your profile? I've NEVER gotten an Icebreaker message so I dont even know what they look like except when you give them.

Anyone?
 
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PurpleWolfWings is offline PurpleWolfWings Post #2  July 3,2009, 12:56pm
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Personally, I would recommend going right into questions. I don't even know where to look to see if someone sent me an icebreaker. I guess if I wasn't getting much interest from matches, or had been waiting for a sign of interest from you, I would respond to an icebreaker, but sending the initial questions would be more of a sign of interest to me.

But, of course, everyone is different. It may just be that you haven't contacted the right match yet.
 
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oostitch is offline oostitch Post #3  July 3,2009, 1:01pm
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i think women respond more to actual communication requests and when you send an ice breaker, it's only shown by your name so it's kind of small and may very well be overlooked. i personally have never used them, i just start communicating directly.
 
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I agree. I think by sending icebreakers, it either shows you're unsure or that you may be a little shy. By sending questions it shows you're more confident and that your intent is real.
 
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islandrain80 is offline islandrain80 Post #5  July 5,2009, 12:21pm
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I tend to ask at least 1 question regarding something in their profile. It shows that I've read it and not just looked at their picture. That's on other dating sites though...never got a match in my 3 mo. subscription with EH so don't know how it works here.
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #6  July 6,2009, 10:46am
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Also it's a sign that you're not a paying member. If you are interested in someone SEND QUESTIONS!
 
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soawesome is offline soawesome Post #7  July 6,2009, 12:13pm
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I pretty much disagree with everyone. I like the icebreakers. You are both matched simultaneously, so the icebreaker says "hmmmm????". If you both ice, then you've indicated you both want to do questions. If there's no reply to an ice i've sent, i don't waste time chasing the guy with questions he's not going to answer anyway.
 
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I don't think anyone has ever sent me an icebreaker before--it's always been questions. If I find myself interested based on the entire profile, then I'll respond. I'm not sure if I'd respond to an icebreaker because it's not my style, but who knows? If I'm interested enough, I might!
 
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passat1 is offline passat1 Post #9  July 7,2009, 10:08pm
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DDjr wrote :
Also it's a sign that you're not a paying member. If you are interested in someone SEND QUESTIONS!
What about sending an ice breaker after I sent first questions (just as reminder that I'm still waiting to hear from you)? It doesn't seem to work either way. Matches may or may not view the profile after receiving the icebreaker, but will not move their as_ and respond to the questions!
 
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passat1 wrote :
What about sending an ice breaker after I sent first questions (just as reminder that I'm still waiting to hear from you)? It doesn't seem to work either way. Matches may or may not view the profile after receiving the icebreaker, but will not move their as_ and respond to the questions!
I've tried to use an Icebreaker as a cheap Nudge without much success. (Nudges sometimes work.) If you match wants to communicate they are going to communicate.
 
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