I honestly believe the only reasons to have a pre-nup are if you have a large successful family business that needs to be protected, or maybe you own a family estate that will be inherited by other family members. Most things can be protected in the form of a trust and the rules can be set when you establish a trust.

I personally feel that if you are in a relationship and you intend to marry the other person, and you are already thinking things may not work out, then you may need to think a little more about whether or not she is the right person.

Yes, it is true that many marriages end in divorce, but if you go into your potential marriage expecting that this may happen, then you may need to reconsider marriage. Have you ever discussed the topic of pre-nups with your partner? Just to get a feel for things?

If you marry this woman and subsequently build a life together and (I hope) increase your wealth significantly, then you have done this together. You may be the one in the office, but she is also working to build the marriage, the family, the home. It should be an equal situation. Saying "if and when we split, what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours" isn't something that parallels with "equal partners".

Personally, I have never been in a situation where I have been faced with a potential pre-nup, but the concept does make me feel a bit uneasy. I am a loyal faithful person and I'd like to think that when I commit to a man (marriage), I am in it for the long haul. In sickness and in health. In good and bad. In richer or poorer. I also would like to think I wouldn't want something I didn't deserve. I don't think I have rights to 1/2 of a man's assets, unless of course I have spent my life raising his children, running and keeping a healthy home and dedicating myself to supporting him.

It's all about equality. To enter into marriage, you need to be willing to share all of yourself with her. If you can't do that, then please think more before proceeding.

After some consideration, I think a pre-nuptial would be a deal breaker for me. I don't want to marry someone who already has a mindset on failure, or a "just in case" back up plan. It's marriage, you work things out together. Fulfill your promise you made at the freggin' altar, don't give me this pre-nup b.s.

Well this pre nup b.s as you put it comes from the insane idea that what one has worked hard for and earned becomes the property of another for the utterance of two words....that is B.S

if that is what it's realy all about then i'm sure you would leave a marriage with only what you had coming into it unless there were children involved or you had some part in earning the assets in question....some people are not that way....they want to leave with a whole lot more than what they came with whether they played any part in earning it or not...it these people for whom prenups are usualy needed.