jimmycann is offline jimmycann Post #1  June 30,2009, 3:39pm
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I always thought I was at least a notch above average in the looks department.

I've uploaded several pics that were definitely not flattering/glamour shots or professionally done to make me look my best. However, they're on my "ADVICE PROFILE", so please look and give me feedback?

I'm a scientist...so if women want intelligence...that should suffice pretty well.

I'm independent, have my own nice apartment. It's not like I'm livin' with my mother or anything.

I act very nice...not cocky at all. I'm a gentleman.(maybe thats it? Nice guys finish last?).

But I wonder why my profile is not getting ANY interest? I've been on eharmony for almost 3 months, match.com b4 that, yahoo.com b4 that, craig's list,,,for about 5-6 months now.

I would guess about 1,000+ women have at least SEEN my pics and profile...yet maybe 5 or 6 showed ANY inyterest AT ALL. These women that were interested were SOOOOOO not in my ballpark. At least that's what I thought. I hate to say derogatory things, so I wont, but let's just say that these handfull of women would not excite ANY man.

Why can't I find at least a woman of avg attractiveness?

I have likes/dislikes...tried to write about how I am on the inside etc...
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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #2  June 30,2009, 3:48pm

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maybe your profile content is off-putting in some way.
 
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Rib_eye is offline Rib_eye Post #3  June 30,2009, 3:52pm

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Hi. If you read other people's profiles, what makes them intriguing? It's a challenge to show your personality through an online profile, but not impossible.

Think about what you are passionate about. We often look for signs of life in a person's profile. Passion is a sign. What do you care about? Are you philanthropic? What do you do in your spare time?

Pictures are not enough. Online, you must use words to show who you are.

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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #4  June 30,2009, 4:57pm
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What's your profile say? I betcha it's something you say in there that might be a turn off to women.
 
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j0hn8andy is offline j0hn8andy Post #5  June 30,2009, 5:21pm
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Yeah, it's not the pics. And you probably earn a decent living.

I've seen people post their profile here for others to critique. You might try that.

Good luck.
 
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dontpostponejoy is offline dontpostponejoy Post #6  July 1,2009, 9:10am
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I know what you're talking about jimmycann. I've been on this site for months and have had no response. Granted, as a 52 yr old I don't expect as much attention as I received 10 years ago when I was into online dating, but still.... I'm not sure what the answer is. You seem nice. I seem nice. Nice pictures, good answers, what more can we do?
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #7  July 1,2009, 9:34am
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One comment about your pics - smile!
Other than that, a whole lot of women out there dislike facial hair and a guy who does not appear to be clean cut. I'm not saying you should change just be aware that it makes your dating pool a bit smaller.

Finally, you may wish to post your profile for review and get some comments from the females here. It is highly likely that there is something in your profile that is raising a red flag that you are not aware of. If you don't want to post it here, then have a female friend of yours take a look at it and help you out with it.
 
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Zev is offline Zev Post #8  July 1,2009, 11:21am
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The head shot by the lake is super.
The fireplace pics are pointless - why post a pic of the back of your head?
The image with the woman doesn't work for me. It's a good one of you but if it's your mom it would raise flags for me. If it's a friend I'd be worried about how you respect her privacy.
The pic with the boy is fine (except for again that privacy issue) but I'd explain your relationship to him if it isn't clear elsewhere in your profile.

I second the previous note about facial hair. I think the clean shaven look would suit you well.

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soawesome is offline soawesome Post #9  July 1,2009, 2:26pm
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Scorpios are usually hot. Lots of us (women) find geeks/scientists very sexy. I agree with a lot of of the other posters. You a) need a good smile shot! and b) probably say something in your profile that is off-putting. The facial hair thing is ok, but more attractive when it's trimmed neatly. Not all of us are going to massive quantities of interested parties - it only matters that ultimately we get a good one or two.
 
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jimmycann is offline jimmycann Post #10  July 1,2009, 3:28pm
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Thanks for the tips everyone. I HAVE trimmed the beard.
I'll crop out my Mother and my nephew then? I just don't get why women would be turned off by a photo w/ your mom and nephew? Doesnt that show you're a family man? AKA...nice?
Or maybe nice is bad?
I'm so clueless. I havent dated in 10 years.
I figured the more angles the better as far as the back of head and stuff. At least it shows I dont have a tumor or bald spot in the back?
 
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