ebug1 is offline ebug1 Post #1  June 26,2009, 10:26pm
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I was in a relationship with someone who just went into the Navy and we were together for about 6 months and got engaged. When he left for boot camp we wrote each other throughout the 8 weeks, and then he went to A-school right after. Long story short when he got to A-school he met someone else and cheated on me. He broke up with me and told me in a text message what happened. After that I joined eHarmony and decided to find someone else but after a couple of tries- one successful for a little while- I was broken up with again because we started a relationship in the wrong time of his life... he was leaving for boot camp soon. After that happened I started feeling a little hopeless. It's been 3 months since and I'm trying to leave for boot camp within the next 3 months. I don't know if I should wait until after, it kind of seems logical, but I cant seem to shake the feeling that I should give it a shot again and if it doesn't work it doesn't work. I just feel like my attitude has changed and I don't want to be negative but I don't know if I'm ready to go out again, but I crave the excitement. Am I just being a baby about this? Should I just go out and have a few dates before I go? I feel as though if I don't get out there I'm just going to be stuck in this attitude. So what I'm asking is... should I wait this attitude out or should I try to change it by going out on dates? It's kind of the fear of getting dumped again or settling for someone who isn't right for me.
 
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Go out!!
Have fun, enjoy life to the fullest, it's the only one you have!!
 
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I think your thread title says it all -- you're just not ready yet, and that's okay.

I'm not sure you have really taken the time to heal from breaking up with your fiance. My advice is to focus on yourself, and your future. You're about to start boot camp, which is exciting. And to be fair, this is probably not the right time to be looking for a relationship. Besides, what's the rush?

I have a feeling you'll be in a better state of mind, when you return from boot camp. You will have accomplished something great, and will feel good about yourself.

Until then, hang out with friends, go out on a few dates, if you would like, but don't rush into a relationship.

Best of luck to you!

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Having been through the boot camp and A-school bit myself years ago I can tell you that the last thing you need is to start a relationship right now. Wait until after school then start a relationship but until then just do some casual dating for fun or go out with the guys just to enjoy yourself. Good luck
 
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You should do whatever feels right to you.
To numb the pain with new dates is not the answer here, in my view. You've been through some drama, which took time and energy. Now give yourself some time to regain that energy, and also work through the pain and issues in your past relationships.

Then go on as my dates as you can handle, and enjoy!
 
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Take some time for you. You'll know when you're ready again.

Thanks in advance for your service to all of us!
 
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Thanks to everyone who wrote me back on this thread, your answers have given me insight; to hold on and take care of myself for a change. I think I'll wait to start anything. It just kinda sucks that this all happened lol. Oh well, I'll get a better shot. Thanks again, and no problem for the service, I look forward to it. You all are angels .
 
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