First Meet...after 10 months of communication...

First, how about not falling in love with the idea of some guy some where that you have never met?

Let's say you don't meet because you're scared so that you can maintain what you have... What do you have? Some occasional email pen pal that writes to you while he's between girlfriends.

If you like the idea of the guy, meet him and see if there's anything there. If there's not, then you can figure that out and find someone that you are truly interested in.

Hello, everyone!

This is my first post on the boards, and it's because I TRULY need advice...first, the back story...

I signed up for e-harmony last August, and was on for a month. It wasn't until the last few days that I met (let's call him Ray).

We went through the guided communication, and literally, the first open e-mail was "Hey, if you're interested in further communication, here's my personal e-mail"...we started e-mailing daily at that point.

This was at the end of September...mid-way through October, we exchanged phone numbers, and e-mails turned to texts. We had a few phone conversations, but honestly, texting became dominant with our busy schedules.

He has three children (two with CF) and I have two, with careers, and such, it's hectic...we are also two states away...I'm in TN, he's in PA.

After two months, I started really liking him and wanted to meet, but wasn't sure on how to approach it. His children have very specific needs, and I knew time was limited, so was travel on his part.

It wasn't until Dec, when I asked if we would ever meet...he said yes, but wasnt' sure how or when.

The holidays passed, and in Jan, I felt a distance beginning to wedge. I talked with him about it, and discovered he had met a local woman. Of course, I was crushed...especially since we never met.

But he said he wanted to stay friends - that we would one day meet, and I did want him to be happy. It was just too difficult, he said, to try and figure out how we would do this.

After some time, I got used to the idea that, we would remain friends, and possibly never meet. We kept communicating, texting and e-mails, and then in April, he broke up with his girlfriend.

I didn't think much of it - but noticed our communication began to increase. He mentioned coming to TN in the summer, and I'll admit, I was excited...but, didn't want to get TOO excited...we're friends...

Well, I am heading home for a visit (Montreal/Canada) this week, and when I spoke to "Ray" about it a few weeks ago, he mentioned maybe meeting when I stop in PA on the way up...I agreed...but now, am petrified.

I really want to meet "Ray", but am totally worried that things will change...that I will somehow lose my friend, whom, I hate to say it, I've fallen in love with.

We are meeting with my kids (which I have NEVER done with anyone) and it will be casual, and I'm sure things will be fine, but, I'm nervous as....and I need to keep myself in check....advice......PLEASE!!!!!

First, how about not falling in love with the idea of some guy some where that you have never met?

Let's say you don't meet because you're scared so that you can maintain what you have... What do you have? Some occasional email pen pal that writes to you while he's between girlfriends.

If you like the idea of the guy, meet him and see if there's anything there. If there's not, then you can figure that out and find someone that you are truly interested in.