Best Friends of the Opposite Sex

My best friend is of opposite sex. We have been friends for six years, never dated and never intend to date.

I am currently in open communication with this one guy and would like to know the best way to tell him that my best friend is a guy without making him jealous or push him away.

I think this guy and I could really hit it off, I just want him to be okay with my own friends.

Any ideas??

People have men and women friends, this may not be so much about jealousy. I would say you have a man friend ,and leave the "best" friend position open for a potential partner. Emotional attachments , and confiding in an opposite sex "best" friend can be a slippery slope with a partner's feelings of betrayal. Particularly, if there is a problem or an issue with a partner, and it is discussed behind the partner's back with a same sex "best" friend. Many an affair begins with a comforting "best" friend listening to "my partner doesn't understand me. So please be mindful and respectful to a partner rather than call them "jealous" when you are posing a real (not imagined) threat to the relationship with the "best" friend thing.

People have men and women friends, this may not be so much about jealousy. I would say you have a man friend ,and leave the "best" friend position open for a potential partner. Emotional attachments , and confiding in an opposite sex "best" friend can be a slippery slope with a partner's feelings of betrayal. Particularly, if there is a problem or an issue with a partner, and it is discussed behind the partner's back with a same sex "best" friend. Many an affair begins with a comforting "best" friend listening to "my partner doesn't understand me. So please be mindful and respectful to a partner rather than call them "jealous" when you are posing a real (not imagined) threat to the relationship with the "best" friend thing.

Some people can never be just friends with the opposite sex, but it's something you should bring up early in the courtship stages when you're dating. It's likely when you start telling him about yourself, you'll mention activities with friends, and it'll probably come out that you were hanging out with someone you refer to as him. If your date doesn't create obvious body language of disgust or bring up that it upsets them, and you really feel the need to know what they think about this, you can ask, but you don't have to. It's your life and your best friend is important to you and there is never a good reason to dump them for someone you just met. Some guys won't have a problem though, and that's a sign of maturity that you should look for.

I don't know why it is, but some guys just need female friends and vice versa and know there is know way they will ever date that certain person. Maybe you grew up with them and they've become a brother to you. I know in my case, my best friend is a woman, and that's all we can be. I never had a sister and the way she looks out for me is what I'd expect a sibling to do. She's pretty panicky and trendy and I've never been attracted to girls like that. But she's also an extrovert and her friendliness has rubbed off a bit onto me and made it so that I can talk to women a lot easier than I could when I was younger and maybe even understand the female mind better. Her husband's never seen me as a threat, and now we're pretty good friends too. If opposite sex friends make you a more complete person and a better partner in a relationship, then there is no way it's a bad thing. Tell your man that!