Do Opposites Attract?

Do Opposites Attract?

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Uncle Apple is offline Uncle Apple Post #31  September 24,2009, 9:48pm
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They're supposed to,but it's not always true. It's mainly just an adage. It's my observation (maybe other people of observed it, too) that it seems to depend on just how much, or how they're opposite. And that some times, for opposites to be together 24/7 is difficult for the one whose opposite.
 
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Here's a good analogy: two people walking across our great country.On a particular day, they are on the same road at the same time, and they meet. Perhaps there is an attraction, or some reason for them to start talking to each other: perhaps one stumbles and one catches? Regardless, they begin to talk and relate. What happened next?Perhaps one comes from NYC, and one comes from Baltimore, but they are on the same road going to California. They are excited that they are going to same place. They talk, enjoy the time together for a while. Then one begins to see that the man is talking slower, the woman faster. “Are you willing to walk faster?”“No, this is the way I walk, I will not change my pace. Can you walk slower?”“No, I want to get there sooner”So, they part.Another couple meet, also both from different places, also going to California. This time, they are at a very similar pace, and they both agree to change cadence a little to continue to walk together. When they get to California, one says,“I can’t wait till we get to San Francisco, I will show you so much and we will have a great time.” “Wait…I’m not going to San Fran, I’m going to Los Angeles, and I know we will have a great time there! “If they are willing to explore each others destinations, or agree on a common destination, then they have a match. Of not, they will again part.But the couple that meets and can negotiate a common cadence, and having had this experience before, right away discusses their destination and what they are willing to do at the destination; this is a winning combination. Even though they come from different places, perhaps had different gaits and maybe even different beliefs, it is the commitment to a common goal and destination that matters.

 
 
Opposites are traveling in different directions almost never get to talk to each other. If chance stops them both in the same place, and they perhaps they will spend a little time together in the middle, have a great time, and then resume their opposite courses.
 
 
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dreamer1109 is offline dreamer1109 Post #33  January 19,2010, 6:12pm
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This helped me a lot. I was married to an opposite for 21 years and have been in several "opposite" relationships since my divorce. I truly believed you were suppose to be with an "opposite". Boy, do I have a lot to think about!!
 
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mhobbs0203 is offline mhobbs0203 Post #34  January 20,2010, 1:01pm
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I really do believe that in some cases opposites do attract.  Sometimes if both parties are too much alike, then that can head for disaster.  I had a dating relationship with someone once for a year and this person is very much like me.  We are both Christians and we share the same ideology and beliefs. 
I left for the military and she stayed in our home state.  So, we had a long distance factor too.  I did go visit for a while at times.  My partner was okay with that.  But, something happened.  Once, I was talking about my new adventures and experiences in the military and how I was growing after leaving the place where I always grew up, she seemed to really resent it.  I think what happened was that we were two people from very similar backgrounds, beliefs, and the same ideology.  One person decided to try something new with his life, then the other party is like,"Oh no!  You shouldn't be doing this because it's not who we are."  I'm not any relationship expert, but I just thought I share an experience. 
I think there are many variables in a relationship that we cannot control.  If a relationship doesn't work for whatever reason, it wasn't meant to be.  Adam and Eve were differnt people with their own personalities and it was working until sin entered the world.  That's a good example to opposites coming together.  It's oversimplified to think that opposites don't attrct nor do they work together because we are all made uniquely.       
 
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nvrstle is offline nvrstle Post #35  January 25,2010, 5:55pm
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I BELIEVE OPPOSITES DO NOT ATTRACT. FROM EXPERIENCE, IF U DO NOT HAVE SAME INTERESTS, HOBBIES, SAME VALUES, IT WILL NEVER EVER WORK NO MATTER HOW HARD U TRY.
 
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EvanNassau is offline EvanNassau Post #36  November 18,2010, 12:44am
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I have recently written an article about whether opposites attract, and if so, how does this relate to the fact that people also are attracted to those who are like themselves?
Do opposites attract -> http://www.evannassau.com/do-opposites-attract/
 
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