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smothie is offline smothie Post #1  June 10,2009, 4:22pm
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I met this guy in Feb 2009 and we really hit it off. We've been going out since then and he wants the relationship to move to the next level. Sometime in april he started acting out. I would call him over some weekends and he won't pick my calls. He always come up with very flimsy excuses about his behavior later in the week. In May i visited him as we both live in different cities and I noticed he was really distant.....somewhat angry. when we started talking about it, he told me that he has a lot going on in his life that he's trying to sort out, that I should be patient with him, that right now he is emotionally unavailable but that I am everything he wants in a woman. I really think that there is another woman he's checking out while keeping me on a string in case that did not work out. Right now I am confused whether to cut my loses and go or if this is a rocky patch........PLS PEOPLE I NEED YOUR ADVICE!
 
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Even if you know you’re paranoid, that doesn’t mean your boyfriend’s strange behavior means he isn’t checking out another women, etc.
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I think your instinct as to what is happening is probably right on. As a man, I'd recommend responding to his coolness in like manner, and pursue other guys. Once he sees that he's losing you, his reaction (or non reaction) will tell you all you need to know.
 
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Honestly...

Dump him.

If he is so unable to handle emergencies in his life that he completely alienates you then a long term relationship with him can't be a good idea.

Whatever your problems are, you should never hurt those that care about you.

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CreolePrincess is offline CreolePrincess Post #5  June 10,2009, 7:10pm
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If you suspect there's another, guess what. There probably is. We have those built in little voices that let us know when something isn't right. Yet, most times we choose to ignore them. Trust your instincts here. And in the off chance you're wrong and he explains everything, you still don't deserve to be treated the way you are currently being treated.
 
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If he says that he is emotionally unavailable why would you want to be with him anyways. Sounds like he is going through some type of crisis within. It just depends on if you are strong enough to handle that because that is going to be an easy ride and you might be a bit frustrated with him at times are ready for that. And if you been with him that long I would at least think that he would feel comfortable talking to you about some of what his problem maybe. As for another woman that could be possible try going and seeing him again maybe something was going on.
 
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I agree with Creole Princess. Listen to your instincts, they will not steer you wrong. Good luck
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #8  June 11,2009, 5:45am
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Yeah, dump him and find a guy who doesn't want a relationship to move to the next level. Good luck with your search.
 
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TaoShaffer wrote :
Honestly...

Dump him.

If he is so unable to handle emergencies in his life that he completely alienates you then a long term relationship with him can't be a good idea.

Whatever your problems are, you should never hurt those that care about you.

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Well said Tao. About Mr. Moody and Mysterious:Read this article on cheaters:
http://advice.eharmony.com/article/6...ting-kind.html

He's playing you and dumping his stress on you, find someone better and more local
 
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Icouldwriteabook is offline Icouldwriteabook Post #10  June 19,2009, 9:34pm
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Yes, I think you answered your own questions.
 
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