ikkin27 is offline ikkin27 Post #1  June 8,2009, 5:27pm
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I started seeing this guy in march and when my best friend told people about us, he said he couldn't trust me and we stopped talking. then we started talking again and he stopped talking to me randomly. then, about 3 weeks ago we got to talking again. he told me how sorry he was and how much he wanted to be with me. but he was already seeing this girl, but not seriously and he didn't want to break the girls heart, so he still has not broke it off. i don't want to wait forever, but i don't want to let him go. he's so great. he gives me butterflies and everything. like he feels like the one.
but i don't want to wait anymore.
what do i do?
 
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What exactly do you see in this guy? He is a total player. He did not want people to know that the two of you are dating - why? Because it might have ruined things with whoever else he was seeing/cheating on? He is now seeing someone else and is looking for greener pastures or something on the side again. What he is doing to other women he'll do to you too. Move on. In fact run as fast as you can from this.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
What exactly do you see in this guy? He is a total player. He did not want people to know that the two of you are dating - why? Because it might have ruined things with whoever else he was seeing/cheating on? He is now seeing someone else and is looking for greener pastures or something on the side again. What he is doing to other women he'll do to you too. Move on. In fact run as fast as you can from this.
Have to agree100% with above post. Definitely a player.
Wow! He's a kid in a candy store and you are just one of his lollipops. Even after 3 months of taste-testing, you're not his favorite flavor, he just can't decide? Wake up and smell the coffee, find a guy who IS into you.
 
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While DancingFool and Wiseman2 have said some very important points there is one thing that I will disagree with them on.

Until you have had a discussion about being exclusive AND you both agree that is what you want, you are both available to and should be dating others. I see nothing in the OP that would indicate that there was an exclusive relationship here other than that the OP may have decided on her own that it was exclusive. I can't say what the guy and his other girlfriends relationship is but unless they had both decided that they were going to have an exclusive relationship then he is not cheating on her. It is also unfair to say someone is looking for "greener pastures" by dating several people at the same time if they are not in an exclusive relationship. You should be dating many people to find out what you like and don't like.

To the OP, I would suggest that you get a net and capture those butterflies. This guy is not treating you well and is, at best, immature. You should move away from this guy fast and find someone that will treat you with respect and is interested in being with you.
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This guy got upset and told you he couldn't trust you because people found out that you two were dating??? Sounds as though this isn't a good guy. Any guy should be proud to date you and if they're not, let them go.....there's probably a good reason (i.e., doesn't want to ruin his dating game) he didn't want people to find out. Sounds like a player.....Next!;-)
 
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Forgot to ask.....what exactly is too good to be true???
 
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Doctora2012 wrote :
Forgot to ask.....what exactly is too good to be true???
I don't know, but I think I have a different definition of "good".
 
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