lifes_a_dance is offline lifes_a_dance Post #61  June 17,2009, 4:00pm
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You are getting some good advice. Communication is def needed. Be prepared to ask if there is a physical/ medical issue that is preventing him from becoming intimate. From my research I believe 40% of men 35 and older begin to experience dysfunction. This is a delicate topic. Educate yourself and be prepared to work through it. If this is the case discovering and exploring other ways of reaching satisfaction is key.
 
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lik2laf is offline lik2laf Post #62  June 17,2009, 5:52pm
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Some people are just old fashioned and want to get to know a person better or wait for marriage. It's strange that society views that as abnormal.
 
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JustAGirl1234 wrote :
neardc...thank you thank you thank! Why must some "peanuts" feel to urge to be heard and post stupid questions?!
Anyway...yeah I do think his time table is alot slower than mine and I'm having a hard time adjusting to it! Not used to it at all! The times we have talked about sex he sorta blows it off as if it's not important to him. It is to me tho.. very important.
You might need to be careful because of what you said "blows it off as if it is not important to him". Maybe it isn't? Is it to you? Once I have dated a guy for a while I actually will ask them, when you are in a steady relationship, how often would you prefer to have sex. Some people simple don't need or want it that much and others do. You need to be on the same page or willing to compromise.

The other thing, more common in my age group (late 40's) is sexual disfunction.

So, like the other poster said, we really cannot tell you what is in his mind but maybe we can give you suggestions on how to get into it.....
 
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