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Dromio is offline Dromio Post #1  June 6,2009, 12:36pm
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I am using eharmony, and have been matched with someone great. We have progressed into the "open cummunication" stage and we have messaged back and forth for two weeks now. I really want to ask her if she wants to go out, but am reluctant because I keep thinking that it is too fast, and might scare her away. But, then again, as I drag it out, I might miss the opportunity that is knocking on my door. Also, she lives 20 min's from me, so it should be a no brainer, right? In my head it seems like the proper thing to do. Shouldn't there be a text book on this to refer to? Does anyone have any experience in this feild, and mind sharing some insight into this situation?
 
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Doodler is offline Doodler Post #2  June 6,2009, 1:28pm
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Ask her out already! If I communicated for two weeks with a guy and he had not asked for a date, I'd think I found myself a pen-pal and would focus my attention on other matches.
 
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You should ask her out immediately, right now!
I never wait longer than 2 emails back and forth (usually 2-3 days in OC) to ask a woman out on this site. So if she's communicating with me as well, then I'll be going on a date with her before you do, which gives me the advantage. So ask her out already!
 
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I agree. Two weeks is more than enough.

In fact, tonight is perfect!
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #5  June 6,2009, 3:52pm
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While you are sitting and pondering this some other guy is taking her on a date. Stop waiting and ask her out.
 
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Ok, Ok. I get the point. I just finished sending her an email. I guess its a waiting game from here. Thanks to all of you for the swift kick in the butt. It was definitely what was needed.
 
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lol....we offer the very best in the butt kicking services on the net. Let us know how the date goes.
 
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Dear Dromio,

Good for you! You asked for some insight/advice and you sure got it!

Please let us know how things go.

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Dromio is offline Dromio Post #9  June 7,2009, 2:14pm
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Just a question, how long should be a normal wait time for a response. in this situation. I initiated that we should meet in person yesterday. And I made it a point that its a no pressure type of thing, along with telling her the places so she knows where she is going so she does not feel as scared about meeting. I somehow believe that I jumped the gun on this. But I guess if someone is really interested, this is the best way to find out.

I guess the reason for all the concern on my part is that I haven't dated since I was 15. I met someone in high school and the relationship lasted for 9 years, and I am 28 now. After that, I pursued my own things and just stayed away from any form of relationship. It seems hard to get back into the game after so long. It seemed much easier back then too. I would like to name those times as Bubble Gum years. Because those were the only type of relationships that existed. Again, thank you to everyone for the support.
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Dromio wrote :
Just a question, how long should be a normal wait time for a response. in this situation. I initiated that we should meet in person yesterday. And I made it a point that its a no pressure type of thing, along with telling her the places so she knows where she is going so she does not feel as scared about meeting. I somehow believe that I jumped the gun on this. But I guess if someone is really interested, this is the best way to find out.


I guess the reason for all the concern on my part is that I haven't dated since I was 15. I met someone in high school and the relationship lasted for 9 years, and I am 28 now. After that, I pursued my own things and just stayed away from any form of relationship. It seems hard to get back into the game after so long. It seemed much easier back then too. I would like to name those times as Bubble Gum years. Because those were the only type of relationships that existed. Again, thank you to everyone for the support.
"Normal" wait time? Whenever you'd like to meet her.

I've known people who have a "rule of thumb" for making the first call after getting a number, making a "follow-up" call to the first phone call, etc. This is nuts. I see right through these hackneyed rules (I'm sure other women do, too).

Go with the flow. If you've hit it off online/by phone/etc., then it's highly likely that she's waiting for you to ask her out. Besides, if she appears to be an incredible individual, then chances are there's someone else stepping up to the plate and asking her out while you're thinking about whether to ask her....it happens

...Best wishes I'm excited for you!
 
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