petey0910 is offline petey0910 Post #1  May 31,2009, 7:43pm
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I recently was matched with a women that withing a few minutes of being matched, I received a request to communicate from her. We ran through the steps and started open communication. The open communication was going good and she asked if I had a facebook page. I sent her the link and she requested me as a friend. Further discussion persisted. I brought up ice cream as being one of her favorite things and we had a discussion on that and she suggested that we should go to a local ice cream stand soon.

I suggested last Wednesday and she agreed. She had to cancel due to work, which I understand because of the nature of her job in the human services realm. Since then, the conversations have slowed down to a snails pace and she hasn't responded back with my suggested days.

In reality, she is the type of women that caused my to sign up for eharmony and I don't want to give up but I also don't want to keep going with thinking that she will respond back to me. Should I just ask if she wants to continue to get to know me more, what her thoughts are, etc.

So far, we have only been exchanging messages on facebook. Should I start using the instant messanger that Facebook has. I don't want to come across as overly aggressive and definitely don't want to scare her away, but I don't want to waste any feelings I may have.

Thoughts. Anyone.
 
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KungFuFtr is offline KungFuFtr Post #2  June 1,2009, 11:44am
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I'm not a big fan of im's. I usually answer and do the eharmony questions then do 2-3 open communications and then ask for a phone number. Once I make a call, I'll do 2 phone calls before I set up a date, no more.
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #3  June 1,2009, 12:56pm
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What KungFuFtr said, online is just an introduction to a stranger. Whether you actually want to date that stranger or not you really won't know until you meet them in person, so the sooner you do that the better. I'd try to stay away from too much electronic communicating.
 
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txbubba is offline txbubba Post #4  June 3,2009, 1:05pm

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it seems that for a lot of people, there are too many to choose from or tomorrow someone "better" comes along to ruin things on the internet.

general rule: give them 2-3 days to respond and then move on.
 
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If she isn't responding, then she probably isn't interested. Sorry.

Just an aside for everyone, I'd recommend against friending matches in Facebook (or other social networking sites) until you've met and there's a clear prospect for continued interaction. Similar to the OP here, I had a friended match poof, and then you get all their status updates.
 
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