OK, so we did the regular guided communication thing.. both liked each other right off the bat. He said things like, "this was the first time he was smiling at his computer in so long.." and lots of references to being so happy he didnt go off of eharmony, like he was just about to, etc...

We meet for appetizers and a drink. Talk is easy, free, no gaps, laughing a lot, and saying that it was going so well. (both were surprised, but happy and laughing about it)

He wanted to extend the date by walking around the city, talking some more, as it was a beautiful night. He walked me to my car, he asked me out again, seemed thrilled that I said I would like to...and we kissed goodnight. NO major make out, lol.. just a couple of nice kisses where he smiled BIG when it was over.

We agreed to go out next week. (his first available, he was checking his schedule --he has one of those planner/calendar things and is a business man that travels some, and had it out a couple of times during the evening b/c his daughter was at home.. he also apologized for this immediately, and said he only had it out in case she needed him, of which I told him I completely understood)

Today, I texted him, b/c I had not heard from him. (not too terribly long, but I was a tiny bit surprised that I had not) It just said, "Lazy day here today...just felt like saying hello :-)"

NOTHING. Ok, I KNOW this guy keeps this thing at his side all the time, b/c we talked about it. Am I to assume that he doesn't want to go out again? Im new to this, and it just seems like the lack of response says it all.

Just a little PS... I am above average in looks, and I do not mean to say this in any cocky way at all, but just in case anyone thought that I misrepresented myself on the site, which I did not. lol.. He even made reference to my looking even better in person, and how attractive I was, etc... SO, Im thinking its not that. ha ha..

Any insight from those who have done this a lot more than me?? Im thinking the non-returned text says, "buh-bye." If it does, man Im really surprised!! He represented himself as this really, really open, upfront guy who tells it like he sees it, and would never ask for another date if he didnt want one, and had experiences like that, and said no politely. Boy oh boy I hate dating! I never do it, and I thought, "Ok....Ill give this a shot." and BAM. Ugh!!!! Frustrating.

Thanks..-L

Personally I think "texting" is a crappy way to communicate with someone for exactly the reason you are seeing. (Those of us that text) get used to getting IMMEDIATE response and so when we are faced with REAL communications schedules we are unable to deal.

Give him some time and then CALL him.

send him a e-mail through the E-Harmony site, but if he said that he would call you then he should be the one to call. in my thoughts; people make time for what they want too, so if your truly important to him he'll make time for you.