curlygirlpdx is offline curlygirlpdx Post #1  May 19,2009, 9:48pm
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Hello--

I'd like to get your advice on this.

So I finally decided to give dating a shot and have been on EH for a couple of months. I've made it to the OC stage with a few matches--several times it's been me skipping to that stage. There's a guy that I recently heard from who hadn't responded to the first stage of questions b/c he was on vacation. In any case, I liked his profile and his answers and skipped to OC. I think I jumped the gun suggesting we meetup--both share a mutual interest in a specific type of cuisine. So we've had several e-mail exchanges and I gave him my phone number. We didn't connect this weekend--I was a little slow to respond and he agreed to call me Monday to see about meeting up. He did call later than needed be to plan something and apologized--I got back to him about an hour later and left a message. So Tuesday rolls around and he calls and I miss his call--he leaves a message and apologizes for missing my return call the night before. So I return his call about 20 minutes later and here we are over an hour later and no call back.

Normally I would assume this is just a case of missing each other but my gut is telling me 1. he may not be that interested in me or 2. he may be a little bit of player--again I realize I jumped the gun in not spending more time communicating through e-mail up front but now the vibe I'm getting is that he's not that interested or pretends to be Mr. Nice guy with explanations for not getting back to be sooner--I say pretend b/c his actions show otherwise.

Is it time to close this match? Thoughts??

I've been on the fence about dating and am wondering if this is just me--do I listen to my gut or give this guy a chance. Regardless it's in his court now--I initiate communication again.
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #2  May 20,2009, 7:32am
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I don't think you've really give this any kind of a chance. He's trying to call and missing you. You're trying to call and missing him.

Can you make a fixed plan in email?

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Sheesh....where is the fire? Give it a chance.
 
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Generally if your gut feels funny...go with it and move on. Best wishes
 
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