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Hi guys,
I have been dating this guy nearly 6 months now, first was really great (I could see myself fall for him).
One morning, I opened my laptop and I found TAGGED site (TAGGED: its similar like Facebook but now days TAGGED its more like dating site). Anyway... I found few of his flirt messages to this one particular girl, he has a plan to meet her in her country for 1 week at the end of this year (he knew her for 6 weeks in TAGGED).
I confronted him over dinner, he stated that its just for fun, nothing serious because he doesn't know that girl. he said sorry and he won't do silly thing anymore.
Few days later i found out that he gave her his personal email address. (i did ask him that too, why he gave her his personal email, his reason was just being a friend)
by that time I was upset because the way they talk in TAGGED was in flirting way (he didn't mentioned that he is currently dating someone when she asked him).
he said i am over jealous and blew everything out of proportion. After that incident i felt he's a bit stand offish of me.
Now I am kinda in limbo, not sure where I stand anymore.
(eventhough he assured me that he is like me and really into me, introduced me to his parent and family).
Any suggestions guys?
thanks
- May 16th, 2009, 08:39 pm
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My question is what were YOU doing on TAGGED? If it's so bad like you say it is then were you there to flirt with and meet other people?
Aside from that, I'd just be careful and not put all your emotional energy into this guy.
- May 16th, 2009, 08:42 pm
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I should clarify it to you boccabum, I was not a member of TAGGED (he is).
He forgot to logged out when he used my laptop.
- May 16th, 2009, 08:56 pm
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This does not sound good to me. If your are or thought you where in serious relationship something is wrong. If you are really into him and still want to see him I would suggest dating him and other men as well. Keep your options open.
- May 16th, 2009, 09:47 pm
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I agree with the earlier post suggesting that you keep your options open and date other guys. His actions indicate that he probably didn't see you two as having an exclusive relationship. You mentioned that you've been dating 6 months. Although it may seem like a long time (I'm currently in this situation), it's still not an official relationship unless you both agree to be in one.

This may sound harsh, but all is fair until you two reach the official relationship point. I think I see things this way as a protective mechanism. I'd rather assume the worse and not get heartbroken if I realize I haven't been the only one they've been dating all along.

I'm always under the impression that the guys that I'm seeing (even the current one) are dating other people as well, unless there's a conversation about being exclusive (of course, I've gotten in trouble for this too because I've continued to see people when the other parties were under the impression I was seeing only them).

I'd highly suggest you consider doing the same so you're able to protect your heart. I totally understand your feeling hurt, but at the same time recognize that this guy is still within his right to flirt and see other people (again, unless you explicitly had one of "thee" conversations -- e.g., exclusive dating, relationship). One would hope that he'd be more sensitive than to continue flirting with others after seeing you for so long, but given that he hasn't, he's not worth your being loyal to him either (continue to date others).


....Best wishes
- May 16th, 2009, 11:56 pm
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Girlfriend. I had the same situation happened to me 1 month ago. I know it is hard but you need to have your stand. I don't suggest you give ultimatum or put up a fight. Simply re-focus yourself and get on with life and start focus on your well-being instead of him tagging or not tagging. You can't change him.

It is time to re-think and re-live your life like the previous posts also suggested. Gather your strengths and start living a more meaningful life.
- May 17th, 2009, 06:43 am
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