soldiersfield is offline soldiersfield Post #1  May 14,2009, 4:11am
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I notice that it seems I get more than normal responses closing out the match because of statements I've made in my profile. How do we know what is "correct" to state about yourself to inform your possible match of more about you without turning them away?
 
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Virtually impossible to answer your question without knowing what you have said in your profile. When you write things they are subject to interpretation. So it could be that you wrote something that is being grossly misinterpreted, it could be that you come across as bitter or jaded, or really I could make a gazzillion guesses here. Please post more information and you'll probably get some constructive advice.
 
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A couple of options...

Get a member of the opposite sex to look at your profile. (You will need someone that will give you honest feedback.)

You can post your "About Me" profile in the "Using eHarmony" section and people will definitely give you a lot of feedback.

It's also possible that they are picking "Statements in Profile" as a dodge for something else: Didn't like your pictures, thinks you're too short or too tall.
 
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Hi OP

What others have said is valid, especially having a female review your profile.

I do think you should also contact customer care via eHarmony. They are always willing to assist, because they want you to have a successful experience.

Good luck!
 
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I listed my passions as:
I am passionate about family and my children. I love music, da Bears[season tix holder since 92] and travel. Summer time you'll find me at outdoor concerts & street festivals.
My influences:
My children have taught me to cherish life day by day. Because of them, I now take time to notice everything around me & cherish our health & laughter.
Important quality:
Someone that appreciates family and children as much as I do. Someone that can understand the balance it takes to be a parent, have a career and still find time for each other.
someone that appreciates family and children as much as you do? Someone that can understand the balance it takes to be a parent, have a career and still find time for each other?
I am looking for someone that appreciates family and children as much as I do. Someone that can understand the balance it takes to be a parent, have a career and still find time for each other.
Leisure time:
Enjoying live music around Chicago & Ravinia, home improvement projects, travel [I've visited 5 of our 7 continents] I am a die hard Bears fan and a Harley rider. Prefer the long, out of state rides.
 
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I posted portions of my profile below. Thanks for all the help, it is appreciated.
 
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the family and childen part is way too redundant- unless you just copy and pasted it 3 times.
 
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This is repetitive, your answers are too short, and very boring. It seems eHahaha have just started threads for each section in the “using eHarmony” area. I suggest going there and posting each section as the topic comes up.
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Desperation is a sad thing
 
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Bandmate wrote :
Desperation is a sad thing
What's your point? Are you calling the OP desperate? Do you by chance have something constructive to offer him?

To the OP... I assume (hope...lol) that you inadvertently pasted in one of your responses three times, and that they in fact read as follows:

soldiersfield wrote :
Passions:
I am passionate about family and my children. I love music, da Bears[season tix holder since 92] and travel. Summer time you'll find me at outdoor concerts & street festivals.

My influences:
My children have taught me to cherish life day by day. Because of them, I now take time to notice everything around me & cherish our health & laughter.

Important quality:
Someone that appreciates family and children as much as I do. Someone that can understand the balance it takes to be a parent, have a career and still find time for each other.

Leisure time:
Enjoying live music around Chicago & Ravinia, home improvement projects, travel [I've visited 5 of our 7 continents] I am a die hard Bears fan and a Harley rider. Prefer the long, out of state rides.
I actually like your responses for the most part. Your strong focus on family and children may be a turn-off for some, though (e.g., they may feel that you won't have enough time for them, or they may not to get involved with a man with kids), but those women aren't likely to be a good match for you anyway.

Motorcycles are another turn-off for some, but if biking is a big part of what you enjoy, they may as well know upfront. If your pictures also consist of lots of ones of you with your bike, though, then it might come across that your bike is a bigger part of your life than someone who doesn't share that interest might want to acccomodate.

I would move the statement about concerts from the "passion" section to the leisure time section. Those two sections are actually somewhat redundant with each other, so I recommend figuring out what really fits in the section about what you are most passionate about, and what better fits into the section on leisure activities.

Or, maybe the women closing you just don't like the Bears...haha.
 
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