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Totally True Story:


when i was 20, i was leaving a 7 11 with my coffee before work when a guy who apparently was on line behind me came out, got on his motorcycle next to my car, then moved the bike closer, knocked on my window, and told me he didn't want to bother me but i was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen.westayed togetherfor 3 years, and we are still friends.


so my advice is to get a motorcycle.
 
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scarlet13,613998 wrote :

Totally True Story:


when i was 20, i was leaving a 7 11 with my coffee before work when a guy who apparently was on line behind me came out, got on his motorcycle next to my car, then moved the bike closer, knocked on my window, and told me he didn't want to bother me but i was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen.westayed togetherfor 3 years, and we are still friends.


so my advice is to get a motorcycle.
Or some confidence. See OP? Just put yourself out there. The only guarantee you'll get for staying in and doing nothing is...nothing.
 
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randomguy1 is offline randomguy1 Post #13  May 11,2009, 10:01pm
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it seems like its confidence but i dont know exactly how to start up new. i will try the bar thing and im looking for a new job right now so that can help fill in some time/meet people. other than that the only way is to talk to girls everywhere so it seems...


should i not put any effort into online, i get a lot of success online but it can be a crutch and hurt my potential....
 
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randomguy1,613983 wrote :

haha. well i am only 21. i graduate next year. so keep this up until im done my mba or something like 25?


I just dont see how you can get random girls downtown/at the mall to give you their number and later go on a date...i'd think they'd flake or something or that i'd have to meet them in class/at a common friends party





so far ive dated girls from online (takes WAY TOO MUCH WORK...talking for a week or two...meeting up with someone you never met....some flakes), friend circles, and class. i also find the girls online aren't as...ahem good looking as the ones from person...some on match.com aren't very visually appealing. at my age should i put zero focus on any online dating?


i guess the answer isnt online its to go approach women. any more advice would be helpful.
I just dont see how you can get random girls downtown/at the mall to give you their number and later go on a date


Instead of guessing, actually try. Do you think girls online are any less flakey? Read some of the posts on here and you'll find they aren't. Just like online, it's a numbers game. You'll have to ask out a few before they say yes. BUT at least in real life, you won't be rejected as much and as quickly.


Again at your age and as a university student, I don't see any reason for you to try dating online right now. You just have too many options in real life right now. Searching for dates online is a lot of work, yes. It takes time, money, effort. Why do that when you can hit a bar on Thursday night and chat up a gal instantly? You'll know exactly what she looks like, if she likes you, etc.


The guys I know who are your age and start talking about getting serious and "settling down" are almost always lonely at the time they say these things. Young guys who are out there meeting and dating women aren't in any mood to "settle down".
 
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If you live in the city, there should be plenty of coffee shops. Find a place where a lot of the locals hang out. Or go to a bookstore or a library. Lots of smart people hang out at these places and I'm sure you will find plenty of good looking people. Good luck!
 
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I see good looking people everywhere....on the street, in clothing stores, in malls....are u guys saying just walk up to them and chat them up?


Some chick in a clothing store was flirting with me but I figured it was too quick to ask her out or for her cell.


The thing about online is you know youre both into each other a bit if you're talking...in person you dont really know till you ask her out.


Maybe I just need practice meeting girls in person and not online.
 
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randomguy1,614702 wrote :

I see good looking people everywhere....on the street, in clothing stores, in malls....are u guys saying just walk up to them and chat them up?


Some chick in a clothing store was flirting with me but I figured it was too quick to ask her out or for her cell.


The thing about online is you know youre both into each other a bit if you're talking...in person you dont really know till you ask her out.


Maybe I just need practice meeting girls in person and not online.
You keep asking the same question and some of us are telling you yes.If you see a gal you think is cute and have some kind of rapport with her, pull out a pen and piece of paper and ask her for her email address. If she likes you she'll give her a phone number too!!!


Online is unnecessary and not needed for a guy your age and in your position. Don't waste your time trying to meet women online when they're right in front of you in real life! Even if you're online, you'll still have to meet them eventually. At least in real life you know what they look like.


Practice, practice, practice. If you think you'll fail, then you will!
 
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I'll go for facebook, that's pretty subtle. A lot of times rapport doesn't happen until you approach her....so if you can't think of something on the fly where do you take it?


I like to talk to random girls naturally like 'im looking for this' and then just change it into normal conversation.


I just don't know about going to a bar alone, i have a feeling if they see you alone it's bad.
 
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do you guys have any other advice?
 
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