JustFriendsormore is offline JustFriendsormore Post #1  May 11,2009, 6:07am
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Hey there recently the girl I have been dating has told me she need space and that we should justhang outwhen we both want to hang outwhich asbeen1-1/2daysper week with some snuggle time involved,and we usually see each other at the gym 1 day/weekbut nothing more and I'm unsure as to do.Please note that she10 years younger than me (38 i am) and she got out of a relationship and started dating me a widow for a year with 2 small kids. We both do want the same things long term and we both enjoy each others company and have invested in each other. Currently my children live with me but will be moving in with my brother and sister-in law as I feel that my children need more than what i can give them right now in the way of my time, and my family can see that and are supportive of that. Back to the situation, needs some space?... I keep telling her that the space is there however she feels suffocated when I try to do things for her in the way of nice things from the heart and monitary. I really want it to work... Just friends or more or wasting my time?
 
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Need space = options open, as yours should be. Date others as well.
 
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She is on a rebound and needs to sort herself out so she is not ready for a serious relationship right now. Since things are becoming more serious between the two of you, yes she feels emotionally suffocated and wants to back away from the situation. In addition to her breakup, at 28, becoming an instant mother to someone else's kids is a very scary proposition and a lot to deal with. That may be something that she needs to think about as well. Also, the gift/money thing - you may be coming across as controlling with that or trying to buy her. Might want to lay off that as well and genuinely give her some space.
 
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