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bpolori is offline bpolori Post #1  May 11,2009, 5:41am
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I have not dated in a few years and it is hard to get back into the dating scene. Was stuck in a dead in relationship before. Any success stories from other women out there in their 30's and 40's who were scared (like a deer in headlights) at first??
 
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Me! Me! After I got divorced, I didn't date for almost6 years. To say that I was nervous would be a gross understatement. Just take it slow and don't feel pressured to find a relationship immediately. That's probably the biggest mistake I made. Good luck! And have fun!
 
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The more youdate the easier it gets. Go out with anyone that shows interest even if you think you are not just for the practice. I am not saying to lead people on. If you are still not interested after one date thank them and tell them then go on to the next. That way when you meet someone that you are interested in you will have more comfort in that type of situation.
 
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dadist,614093 wrote :

The more youdate the easier it gets. Go out with anyone that shows interest even if you think you are not just for the practice. I am not saying to lead people on. If you are still not interested after one date thank them and tell them then go on to the next. That way when you meet someone that you are interested in you will have more comfort in that type of situation.
That's what I'm doing right now, is "practicing" by trying to get out as much as I can, regardless of whether or not I see potential. Along the way, I'm starting to relax and just have fun.


I don't know about you gals, but I'm finding there are always plenty of men pursueing me who aren't quite right for me - often times they have something about them that would be a big problem if the relationship were to become serious, like different fundamental beliefs. For example, I'm a Christian, and there was this Saudi guy who wanted to go out with me. Well, I finally went out with him after he asked several times, knowing it would never work - his family would expect me to move to Saudi Arabia, wear a veil, and convert to Islam. He turned out to be a very intellectual talker, and I had fun learning about his political leanings (conservative and supportive of Bush), his small town in the desert where nothing ever happens, his dad's 2 wives, and his 21 siblings. Going out with him made my next date easier.


Now I'm starting to try and narrow things down with people I'm more compatible with. But yeah, it's like dadist said.
 
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I have not dated in a few years and it is hard to get back into the dating scene. Was stuck in a dead in relationship before. Any success stories from other women out there in their 30's and 40's who were scared (like a deer in headlights) at first??


Just get out there and do it. Guys are going to feel the same way you are so you're equal. Look for little/no stress dates that are fun.
 
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