redjade is offline redjade Post #1  May 1,2009, 8:29am
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I have been dating this guy for over a year, well around August my time was limited because of classes and of course I have a grand child that I watch 2 days aweek/


My friend stop calling or even coming by. his excuse was he was busy and so happen one day I was riding down a street and saw his truck at a house while i was on the cell with him. the next day I was on the same street going home (main rode ) I noticed his car was parked there at (3pm)


well I decide to go by his house later that evening without calling and what do I see, he was sitting in the car in front of his house talking to a female(same car that was parked at this house) .


I ask him about the car situation (I never told him I saw him with the female in front of his house) he said he was letting her use the car there was nothing going on.


Well, after a long discussion and he blaming me for the major communication problems. (not spending any time with him) I started spending more time with him,


come November same problem he stop calling, (the day after I told him I could not ome over to his house) well passing his place my daughter sees him walking across the street with a female , nothing unusual right? remember we haven't spoke to eah other in nearly a month now or have he made any attempts to come by, I was without a car mind was in the shop.


I call this guy again to see if this relationship is a done deal, he tells me he never said that.. however it is now the month of April and each time we are together is when I iniate the call or ask to come over or go out or any other subjetion to keep this relationship going??


tell me should I just end this one sided relationship and not even call him?
 
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sue_Onim is offline sue_Onim Post #2  May 1,2009, 9:13am

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if you already gave him some booty... and he's engaging in this behavior... your relationship was over as soon as he zipped his pants up
 
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jomarie is offline jomarie Post #3  May 1,2009, 8:00pm
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Yes, end it. Like the movie says-if he doesn't call you, he's just not that into you!A month withoutcommunicating isn't a worthwhile relationship!
 
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argytunes is offline argytunes Post #4  May 2,2009, 8:29am
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I can understand your jealousy, but I also understand why he had the desire to "switch partners!"


Look at this logically. You already have mistrust for the man so even if he returned BEGGING TO TAKE YOU BACK...there would still be a 'seed of doubt' in your mindregarding his fidelity!


Give yourself a week to breathe fresh air by letting him go. After that, give yourself permission to date someone else!


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.......well I decide to go by his house later that evening without calling and what do I see.....
Much useless time spent Sherlock. You should have knocked on the door


......each time we are together is when I iniate the call or ask to come over or go out ....
Why haven't you expressed this to him


....should I just end this one sided relationship.....
I truly believe you know the answer. I don't really feel comfortable telling people to end relationships.


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I think you both have a problem with direct communication.
 
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