#1 Surprising Reason Men Said They Chose Their Wife

#1 Surprising Reason Men Said They Chose Their Wife

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eharmonyadvice is offline eharmonyadviceAdvice Official Moderator Post #1  April 16,2009, 5:48pm

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I've spent a great deal of time talking to men about the reasons they chose a particular woman for a long-term relationship. They described to me the moment when they first knew a woman was special and had future-wife potential...
 
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Good article EHA.


 
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sue_Onim is offline sue_Onim Post #3  April 16,2009, 5:51pm

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oh come on... those hugemelons and a nice butt had nothing to do with it while drunk and horny at a party?
 
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real niiiiice... 1/2 the time I'm told by guys they don't see me as 'g/f material' because I'm too nice - go figure.


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real niiiiice... 1/2 the time I'm told by guys they don't see me as 'g/f material' because I'm too nice - go figure.


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maybe they say that you are too nice, when they really mean you are a pushover.


I'm not being mean, it's just a thought.
 
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real niiiiice... 1/2 the time I'm told by guys they don't see me as 'g/f material' because I'm too nice - go figure.


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You've been hanging out with the wrong types.


I know of couples who are just like those described by the writer. I sent a note to one of them the other day thanking them for being such a wonderful example of marriage to the rest of us.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #7  April 16,2009, 7:13pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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It doesn't surprise mea lot that men would say this....however, there oftentimes seems to be a difference between qualities that people look for in a new partner...and those they appreciate in someone they've been with for an extended period of time. I have the impression that when people have been in a committed relationship for a while they value qualities such as 'niceness' in their partner more than they do if they're looking for someone new. So while men and women may value qualities such as 'niceness' once they've been in a relationship for a while....they may not value this as much and have other qualities more in mindwhen single and lookingto start a newrelationship.
 
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PY is offline PY Post #8  April 16,2009, 11:52pm

Sometimes...just be a bigger person and take the high road.

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real niiiiice... 1/2 the time I'm told by guys they don't see me as 'g/f material' because I'm too nice - go figure.


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maybe they say that you are too nice, when they really mean you are a pushover.


I'm not being mean, it's just a thought.
Naah...I think she is nice....the guys were just dumb!


 
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real niiiiice... 1/2 the time I'm told by guys they don't see me as 'g/f material' because I'm too nice - go figure.


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maybe they say that you are too nice, when they really mean you are a pushover.


I'm not being mean, it's just a thought.


Naah...I think she is nice....the guys were just dumb!

Thanks PY lol


Scarlett I know what you mean though -being a'pushover'is aboutone step past being nice, no doubt, but I'm far from being one of "those girls" :-)
 
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It doesn't surprise mea lot that men would say this....however, there oftentimes seems to be a difference between qualities that people look for in a new partner...and those they appreciate in someone they've been with for an extended period of time. I have the impression that when people have been in a committed relationship for a while they value qualities such as 'niceness' in their partner more than they do if they're looking for someone new. So while men and women may value qualities such as 'niceness' once they've been in a relationship for a while....they may not value this as much and have other qualities more in mindwhen single and lookingto start a newrelationship.
Agreed, and very well said jayjay!
 
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