#1 Surprising Reason Men Said They Chose Their Wife

#1 Surprising Reason Men Said They Chose Their Wife

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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #81  July 30,2010, 6:55am

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BS again.
Men marry hassle free sex . Once they determine they potentical to obtain hotties they will settle for the female that offer them hassle free sex.
You seriously believe that? Not that the article is BS I think I have only seen one article that wasn't BS. That all guys want is hassle free sex? That is sad. My boyfriend loves me, he lives with me, you have never met my kids but trust me that is not hassle free sex. They are a pain in the butt at times. Guys want a woman they can connect to just as much as a woman does. They just don't talk about it allllllll the time.
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I didnt read aaaall the replys, but I do have something to add with limited time, so here goes:

I was visiting my "Pookie" a few weeks back and he was cooking breakfast. He didn't want me to help, so I just let him enjoy cooking for me, which I thought was very "nice". He had just taken some clothes out of the dryer, so I folded them and put them all away for him. No big deal right??? Well apparently it was a huge thing for him and weeks later still says how "nice" that was of me to do that for him. He said never once had anyone done that for him. Knowing that he appriciated it makes me want to find other "nice" things to continue to do for him and he does the same. (And yes, he even asked what in the world I was doing cleaning the hotel room just before check out but I used to be the one cleaning the rooms just out of high school) It's good to see that being "nice" IS appriciated, AND noticed... It kind of feeds on itself like random acts of kindness (A rule I live by) and makes for a happy couple don't you think?

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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
My boyfriend loves me, he lives with me, you have never met my kids but trust me that is not hassle free sex. They are a pain in the butt at times. Guys want a woman they can connect to just as much as a woman does. They just don't talk about it allllllll the time.
HEHEE I agree with you yet again! I have an 11 year old. My "Pookie" has no kids and to top it off never dated anyone with a child... My son is the sex police... it just isn't happening, period! He loves me to pieces and knows I adore him right back! We laugh about it, but it definately isn't hassle free when kids are involved!! LOL
 
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HEHEE I agree with you yet again! I have an 11 year old. My "Pookie" has no kids and to top it off never dated anyone with a child... My son is the sex police... it just isn't happening, period! He loves me to pieces and knows I adore him right back! We laugh about it, but it definately isn't hassle free when kids are involved!! LOL
Troy has no kids but always wanted them. He is great with them and they love him back. Still they are kids, ya know. Have you considered locking the door. Then again still no fun when they knock.
 
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Sad_but_True wrote :
BS again.
Men marry hassle free sex . Once they determine they potentical to obtain hotties they will settle for the female that offer them hassle free sex.

I don't know what happened to that guy's post but...it's no wonder the divorce rate is so high.
 
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I think this article is hilarious! So men have no idea that women can be nice? I thought these things in the testimanial were things that all normal people did, but I guess not. So maybe I have more of a chance at finding someone....since this is how I always am. I never really thought about it before. Why would you leave a huge mess anywhere? good lord people!
 
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Troy has no kids but always wanted them. He is great with them and they love him back. Still they are kids, ya know. Have you considered locking the door. Then again still no fun when they knock.
Yea, He would too, sit there and knock and knock and knock... he really is the sex police.... any time things start to get heated, I hear... MAAAA! Hey MAAAA I need you in here.... COME"ER FOR A MINUTE! So then we just give up and he goes and plays X Box with my lil guy... I sit back and laugh because they play so good together! (Like their both kids! Its hillarious!!)
 
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chawks64 wrote :
Appreciation, too.

Most of the men I've dated have said the women in their past never appreciated the things they did for them. No one likes to be taken for granted. Like I've always said - the best way to make people feel good about you is to make them feel good about themselves.
My wife was nice but she wasn't considerate. Big difference.

When I became single again and could tune in on who I was again, minus the "static" of the marriage, I found out how giving and caring I was by nature. It just feels good to me to do things for others. Now, I don't doubt that I've been appreciated, but it gets old to not get acknowledged and to not have it reciprocated.

First time I had a gf get me a glass of wine and want to change the pillows behind me because I didn't look comfortable, I was about ready to marry her. What an unusual and wonderful feeling!
 
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lucky173 wrote :
real niiiiice... 1/2 the time I'm told by guys they don't see me as 'g/f material' because I'm too nice - go figure.


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Don't forget that lots of men don't like conflict and will often say a something positive rather than something negative.

Example 'We are such good friends and I don't want to spoil that' = 'I don't find you attractive'
 
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When a man is serious about finding a wife, he subconsciously looks for behavior that would indicate the woman is not going to get knocked up by the neighbor and have to unknowingly raise a kid thats not his.

Most "nice" girls would not end up in that situation.

Girls that are good in bed and use their sexuality to attract a man might.


You must add "cute" to "nice".
 
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