#1 Surprising Reason Men Said They Chose Their Wife

#1 Surprising Reason Men Said They Chose Their Wife

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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #21  April 20,2009, 5:30pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Just_A_Thought,586910 wrote :

Those gestures are common courtesy and just being kind or sweet. I don't find them to be earth-shattering personally. It's a way of life forsome of us to be "nice" if those are the definitive actions that prove niceness.
The kind of 'nice' that means something to me is if someone can be this way even when she feels vulnerable or when things aren't going her way. Anyone can be nice,'courteous' and sweetwhen the going is easy.
 
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sue_Onim,581249 wrote :

oh come on... those hugemelons and a nice butt had nothing to do with it while drunk and horny at a party?
Agree with that one 100%!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #23  April 20,2009, 6:57pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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oh come on... those hugemelons and a nice butt had nothing to do with it while drunk and horny at a party?


Agree with that one 100%!
Do the men you know find their wives while drunk and horny at parties? Maybe I've been going about this all wrong......
 
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Actually yes, at the bar or at a party and I'm not even joking...why do you think the majority of 20 year olds find their mate at those places (and why people keep saying they're "tired of the bar scene"? It's loaded with people who are drunk and free of their inhabitions. I think it's time for a change of strategy JayJay
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #25  April 21,2009, 8:05am
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Estarriol1138,587528 wrote :

Actually yes, at the bar or at a party and I'm not even joking...why do you think the majority of 20 year olds find their mate at those places (and why people keep saying they're "tired of the bar scene"? It's loaded with people who are drunk and free of their inhabitions. I think it's time for a change of strategy JayJay
I KNEW I was doing something wrong! LOL. Hey....one could even push that strategy further by doing it in Vegas. You could get drunk and have a spouse by morning!
 
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jayjay,587650 wrote :

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Actually yes, at the bar or at a party and I'm not even joking...why do you think the majority of 20 year olds find their mate at those places (and why people keep saying they're "tired of the bar scene"? It's loaded with people who are drunk and free of their inhabitions. I think it's time for a change of strategy JayJay


I KNEW I was doing something wrong! LOL. Hey....one could even push that strategy further by doing it in Vegas. You could get drunk and have a spouse by morning!
LOL nice! Yes Vegas would definitely be the place! Fast, cheap and efficient! Just look at all of the successful marriages that have come out of there over the years No wonder I haven't had much success in the dating world...I haven't been drunk enough! I think we all need a change of strategy...
 
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G'day all.

I am a man in Australia that does not fare very well when it comes to finding partners. More often than not, I walk away after getting a backhander across the face. And, no, I do treat the opposite sex with respect!!!

In the last month, I have had the pleasure of meeting a lady that has come from India to study in Australia. We met via an Indian matrimonial website, and got to know each other via the 'net briefly, before I called her and spent time talking with her. Each time that we speak with each other, it is a battle for us to part... When we met for the first time, the plan was dinner then go to a high point to look over the lights of the city. (I have been told that this city is very similar to Los Angeles in that respect. ) She requested that we go straight to the high point. We got out of the car and had a wonderful view of the twinkling lights; it was like waves of the ocean. We then got back into the back seat of the car, and sat in each other's arms, and talked about anything and everything! We got a pizza on the way home, and spent the next two nights together, doing different things.

We then had a break for a fortnight, due to the fact that she was down in the dumps from being homesick. Though we did not talk, I was sending her a sms every morning, letting her know that if she needed a shoulder, let me know, I would be there for her. She called me via the 'net, and we are planning a future together.

From my perspective, the one thing that stands out to me about her is that we have similar thinking, similar thoughts and standards of behaviour and expectations for life. Long term, we both have the same end goal in mind, but, granted, we do have different ideas on how to get there. But, as we both agree, that is from the different backgrounds that we have come from. She also knows that I am not a rich man, but she can see a future with me, even with no money.

As the title of this board was about reason for man to want a woman for life... I feel that it is about compatability and understanding of each other. That I feel is what is bringing love to my life.

Watch this space!!!
 
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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #28  June 28,2009, 5:00am

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Well I didn't use any of those reasons for marrying my wife. The word "nice" can literally mean anything.

E Harmony said it best via a poll they conducted years ago. Today I think it's politically incorrect and so has disappeared. In the poll both women and men were asked what they wanted their partner to be [or something like that.]

Top choice for men was they wanted a kind woman.
 
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Michael1974 is offline Michael1974 Post #29  August 4,2009, 5:58pm
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Those are some amazing stories.  The women described in the examples made great first impressions (or great early impressions).
 
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I chose my girl initially because she seemed very kind and caring.
 
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