I want to know why we women spend our lives trying to meet and please men. I don't see them doing the same or even caring about establishing lasting relationships with us. Why do we continue to put ourselves through this?
I have found that the two best books on marriage relationships are: Courtship After Marriage by Zig Ziglar and The Love Dare by Alex and Stephen Kendrick.
These books have helped me in my marriage. (My wife and I met on E/H, by the way.)
I started dating this man from church. Soon after he began telling me I wanted to get married. He now says we are just friends.... that I'm one of the few people he actually cares about. His phone calls, texts and e-mails are at odds with his statements about being just friends. It's all very odd. He spends a great deal of time talking about before he was married and what a player he was. Are all men seriously the best lover that ever drew a breath?
I don't know whether to chalk this up to damage from a bad marriage or just immaturity.
Men: Actions not Words, actions not words, actions not words
Well there are more than 3 things that turn men off to relationships. One major piece of legislation passed in 1994, called the Violence Against Women Act of 1994 should top the list of things that scare men away from relationships.
We all can agree that women in abusive or violent relationships need help to get out of them and this law addresses just that.
But, unwittingly, our witless legislators failed to realize that women can and do use false accusations of domestic violence to put men in a world of hurt if the relationship were to turn sour. Unlike any other form of criminal act in which a person is presumed innocent until PROVEN guilty, domestic violence is she said he said, only her accusation carries the day and she does not have to prove anything, nor is there any consequence for her doing such a thing. He is presumed guilty just by her accusation. His life will never be the same after that.
So, if the 3 things in this blog don't scare a man away from a relationship, the Violence Against Women Act of 1994 should. Not all women will use such a devious tactic, but some will. So men which of these women are you sleeping with. If you think she is one of those who might, get out while you can.
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