3 Things That Turn Men Off To Relationships

3 Things That Turn Men Off To Relationships

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jbrown01 is offline jbrown01 Post #11  March 4,2009, 4:57pm
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Can I add to the great 3 things that turn us off to relationships? I would suggest that women that are all ready in a relationship and/or married need not even try to start up a new relationship, until the one your in is over. I have met lots-o-women that have a problem relation/marriage, and want to start dating/relationship with me before they feel the strentgh to leave that problem alone. Ladies, us men feel as if you are using us to get past/thru a bad situation and our very 1st thought is " if you dump him for a better man, then you will dump us for even better". Or to keep it short, you did it to him, so you'll do it to me. Honestly a man can't trust you when you try to go that route, because in the back of our minds we don't see you as a strong woman, or maybe your the type that need a man to validate you. Either way it's a relationship kill.
 
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matkins,514925 wrote :

I want to know why we women spend our lives trying to meet and please men. I don't see them doing the same or even caring about establishing lasting relationships with us. Why do we continue to put ourselves through this?
It would be easy to say that you're just trying to please the wrong men, so I'll go in a different direction: Men approach relationships differently than women do. You cannot assume that men and women put the same thought process into deciding when to enter a relationship. I agree with Christian Carter that you can't force a man to get into a relationship with you, say "I love you," or ask you to marry him unless he himself is ready to do so. If you feel that his timeline is too unreasonable, then you have a decision to make.
 
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Men like women dont like liars. There are some guys whodepend on liesand they can't live without lies. Please guys out there be careful, most men hate that vey much and that can turn a man off to the relationship for ever.
 
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GMN is offline GMN Post #14  March 5,2009, 3:22pm
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Hello Christian!


I have been dating this really great guy for over a month. We are exclusive, it was his request and I am quite happy with the arrangement. Since it has not been long and we are still getting to know each other, when can I inquire about what he wants from the relationship, how he feels about marriage, children, etc?


Your advise please!


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I started dating this man from church. Soon after he began telling me I wanted to get married. He now says we are just friends.... that I'm one of the few people he actually cares about. His phone calls, texts and e-mails are at odds with his statements about being just friends. It's all very odd. He spends a great deal of time talking about before he was married and what a player he was. Are all men seriously the best lover that ever drew a breath?


I don't know whether to chalk this up to damage from a bad marriage or just immaturity.
 
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that's good advise, female all try to please instead of being themself and that always turn man off.
 
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gr8galmv is offline gr8galmv Post #17  March 11,2009, 3:48pm
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Everyone- Christian is not going to answer your questions here. He pays to advertise on this site and thus get to 'sponor' articles in order to promote his book. But, if you don't mind the rest of the community here responding to your questions it's best to start your own topic that others can give their input.
 
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maple2 is offline maple2 Post #18  March 11,2009, 5:55pm
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By the way all articles from Christian are aimed toward women pleasing men or discussing what we womenare ding wrong in our relationships.


As a relationbship expert, I expect him to consider both sides of the relationship. *Why d I even keep reading his articles?*
 
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There ya go ladies: We want rid of you for the same reasons you want rid of us.
 
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why don't we make an extra effort to learn more languages (beside the one we barely speak)?
 
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