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godess49 is offline godess49 Post #1  February 27,2009, 2:23pm
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I met a guy last saturday night and every thing was going okay until he ask me not once but twice about when was i coming to see him, not when can i take you out or when can i come see you but when are you coming to see me. ( my answer was i don't know you that well to come and see you, we just met and i need to take it 1 day at a time to see where things go with us. but that was since sunday night and haven't heard from him since.
 
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He sounds like quite a flirt. If he is really interested, he will get in touch with you. But, given that this is someone you just met and don't know much about, I would not invest much emotional energy in hopes that something will work out. If it does, that might be a nice surprise, but I wouldn't count on it. And, if he doescontact you and want to see you, he should at least be willing to meet you in the middle.
 
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this guy is too fast for you.
 
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godess49, wrote :

I met a guy last saturday night and every thing was going okay until he ask me not once but twice about when was i coming to see him, not when can i take you out or when can i come see you but when are you coming to see me. ( my answer was i don't know you that well to come and see you, we just met and i need to take it 1 day at a time to see where things go with us. but that was since sunday night and haven't heard from him since.
Is he in jail or the hospital?


What does he mean by coming to see him? Is that his way of asking you out.


Sounds like time to move on.
 
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goddess, I think like anything else, there shouldn't really be a set timetable for this. Do only what YOU feel comfortable with and only when YOU feel comfortable doing it. Simple.


If this is the guys way of asking you out then it's just another thing that you've got to decide for yourself whether it works or not.


I want a man to actually invite me out. This would seem to me that he was asking me when I was going to start working toward woo'ing him. Wouldn't work for me.
 
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It sounds to me like he wants you in his own environment, which he is in control of. Doesn't sound like a good position to put yourself in. The fact that you haven't heard back from him may just confirm what his motives were.
 
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Follow your instincts. I would intrepret what he said as: When will I ________ you. Fill in the blank with any word you choose. He sounds like he wants a booty call not a relationship.
 
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