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BenThruItAll,507678 wrote :

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What I don't understand is how PTSD can control your life to the point it is the center of your life and interferes in your every waking hour. You know these terms are just terms doctors use to make youremotions seem like an illness so they can prescribe you drugs. You know that right? And if you meditated with your heart and soul and you really really wanted to be cured you can. You know that right?


I've worked on some people who never thought they would ever stop crying without drugs and with one session with me they were free.


I think you'll be ok, and there is no need to disclose it because it is not contagious...hopefully.


PTSD is a very complicated disorder, you have over-simplified it. When something happens in your life that traumatizes you so severely, such as sexual abuse, it will affect certain aspects of your life for years to come. I have the very unlucky problem of having the person who traumatized me as a family member, so there are constant reminders and difficult family dynamics. Occasionally things come up that trigger an episode. You obviously are not educated enough to understand that sometimes 'meditation' is not enough in severe cases. I understand the ignorance of a lot of people in these matters, but it doesn't make my situation any easier. The judgment of others, like yourself, who think doctors "use those terms to make emotions seem like illness" cause more damage than help. You know that, right?
I think friedrice just triggered an episode
 
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Mental illness is the least understood human affliction and this misunderstanding can cause additional injury to those afflicted - from job discrimination, misdiagnosis, delayed treatment, and unkind words. It is NOT an imaginary illness. It CANNOT be relieved by power of will alone, and it is NOT a character flaw. It has an organic biochemical cause just like diabetes or cancer or cardiovascular disease.


An estimated 26.2 percent of Americans ages 18 and older suffer from a diagnosable mental disorder in a given year. When broken down into categories, we find that approximately 9.5 percent of the U.S. population age 18 and older in a given year, have a mood disorder (depression or bipolar). Approximately 18.1 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have an anxiety disorder (panic attacks, obsessive-compulsive, post-traumatic stress, and social phobia). Many people like the OP suffer from more than one mental disorder at a given time. Nearly half (45 percent) of those with any mental disorder meet the criteria for 2 or more disorders. (source: NIMH)


In contrast, 7.8 percent of the US population—have diabetes (source: NIH), a disease that is incurable, yet treatable, and fortunately does not carry the cruel stigma of mental illness.


Despite recent advances, basic science still does not yet understand why and how the healthy brain functions as it does. It follows that we don't fully understand what's happening when a mental illness is present. We also don't understand how most psychoactive drugs work, but years of clinical research have proved that they DO work. People like friedrice who dismiss medical intervention without scientific data to back up their claims do a great disservice to those who suffer from mental illness. They also perpetuate the stigma attached to the disorder by suggesting that it can be cured if the person afflicted really wanted to be cured. Rubbish!


BenThruItAll , you are not alone. There is a one in four chance that one of your matches has suffered from a mental disorder at some point in his life. Approximately 7.7 million American adults age 18 and older, or about 3.5 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have PTSD.


I would not disclose this information until you are far enough into a relationship to start talking about committment, exclusivity , or physical intimacy. Unfortunately, there's still alot of stigma and ignorance out there.


I hope I didn't come across too strong, but this is a passionate subject to me for personal and professional reasons.
 
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PY,548498 wrote :

Dear BenThruitAll,


Since I don't have any experience about PTSD (I just googled it)...I just wanted to give you a 'virtual' hug *hugs*


Hope all is well and you continue to find better weather and you find that special someone you're looking for.


Sincerely,


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PY, you are winning me over with your sweet talk!


I guess what I haven't been able to get across in some of my other posts is that life is short, don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things. People aren't just a sum of their statistics. Past life experiences can teach a person to put value on so much more than someone's occupation, age, looks or lifestyle. Sometimes it's worthwhile to give a person some time to shine through. I'm not saying that chemistry isn't important, but some people with problems like PTSD take a little longer to "come out of their shells."


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Squire,548516 wrote :

BenThruItAll,507678 wrote :


friedrice,507614 wrote :


What I don't understand is how PTSD can control your life to the point it is the center of your life and interferes in your every waking hour. You know these terms are just terms doctors use to make youremotions seem like an illness so they can prescribe you drugs. You know that right? And if you meditated with your heart and soul and you really really wanted to be cured you can. You know that right?


I've worked on some people who never thought they would ever stop crying without drugs and with one session with me they were free.


I think you'll be ok, and there is no need to disclose it because it is not contagious...hopefully.


PTSD is a very complicated disorder, you have over-simplified it. When something happens in your life that traumatizes you so severely, such as sexual abuse, it will affect certain aspects of your life for years to come. I have the very unlucky problem of having the person who traumatized me as a family member, so there are constant reminders and difficult family dynamics. Occasionally things come up that trigger an episode. You obviously are not educated enough to understand that sometimes 'meditation' is not enough in severe cases. I understand the ignorance of a lot of people in these matters, but it doesn't make my situation any easier. The judgment of others, like yourself, who think doctors "use those terms to make emotions seem like illness" cause more damage than help. You know that, right?


I think friedrice just triggered an episode
May I quote Dan Ackroyd in SNL's Weekend Update? "Squire, you ignorant slut....." Oops, I guess I just had an episode! ;-}
 
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aaaaw no sweet talking...just a little encouragement when it's due


 
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I'm really glad this question was asked. I've been struggling with it for years. I have a couple of issues that I feel the need to clarify with guys pretty quickly. These are not minor issues - I am obese, and I share the parenting of my two adoptive kids with a guy, who I've never dated.


Beyond these two insignificant items, I think that I'm a really unusual person - but year after year I get almost no responses to my profile, or I get people who are routinely trying to scam me. Last year I think I got 10.


I'm afraid that I am coming off as being too rich (how can a social worker afford to travel and show dogs?) Or too gullible. Anything but the very bright, Ivy League, kind, out-of-the-box person I know myself to be! I'm getting really discouraged with the entire online dating scene.


Should I be handling this hold thing differently? Is there any way to get some advice on my profile specifically?


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Vanessa, it's really hard to answer your question without seeing your profile. It seems that people are always going to make assumptions about certain things. It takes money to travel so people will just assume that you are not poor. Your intellect will show in your writing. My only advice to you would be to try to engage any matches in writing emails for as long as you can. I find that you can tell a lot more about a person in the way the write. If a man is interested in you, he will continue to write (I've found that a lot of men don't like to write, so if they are just scamming you, they might not continue.) Go slow and be careful!
 
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