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Not getting any response from your matches? Your profile might need a makeover. This month, our experts helped one lucky (and anonymous) eHarmony member tweak her About Me profile! Learn step-by-step tips that could help you attract The One!
- April 7th, 2008, 07:37 pm
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I need a make-over!! I have talked to a couple of people, but haven't really gotten anywhere! Any help is always appreciated...
- April 7th, 2008, 07:37 pm
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Help! I am very unsure about my profile. I get no responses from any of my matches, and I can't figure out why. I need help to improve my "About Me."
- April 8th, 2008, 07:11 pm
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I'd love to get some outside feedback on my profile. I had some girlfriends look at it early on and they said it captured my personality perfectly, but that doesn't really tell me how guys who are strangers are reacting.

Here is the thing, I am an associate pastor in a mainline church. Initially I struggled with what to say about my profession, but after a week of being a little bit vague I decided that I might as well put it out there. What good is someone contacting me only to later discover that he is totally against women in ministry. But I don't know if my profession is the only thing people can't get past, or if there are other things in my profile that could use tweaking.

It would be great to have your help!

- April 8th, 2008, 08:49 pm
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I would love some help...



There are many traits about me, that make me special, but somehow I wonder if they come across... I'm very humble, and also care a lot for others.... softspoken... feminine... love traditional roles ... but at the same time I am not your average laid-back person.... I love to get out there anddare to speak out in public about certain things... like I gave my abortion testimony a while back, which aired on TV, and I am in contact with parliament about a number of things...

I have no idea how to "sell myself" to a super guy.... I am told I look good for my years... feel good.... have a lot to give...... but what to do??!!! Please help!!!



- April 8th, 2008, 11:43 pm
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I have been on Eharmony for a little while and think I am just getting the hang of it. I didn't even realize my picture wasn't immediately available until yesterday. I would love any help, comments, and insight. I honestly haven't been very inerested in most of the matches I have read about and have only had a few requests for communication where I "real life" I get hit on quite a bit. I was hoping this would help me find someone truly interested in the same things I am rather than mere physical attraction (not that there is anything wrong with that). Thanks for the consideraton

P.S. spell check would be a VERY nice added feature to this site. Most people are so usedto it now we let our typos slip!

- April 8th, 2008, 11:50 pm
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The first 3 people who left comments want makeover help. eHarmony's advice and examples in this article are excellent. A good start is to compare your profile with Miss April's. If your making the same mistakes as her, correct them. Study eHarmony's constructive advice and spend some time thinking of your own uniquie qualities,talents, interests, etc., then present them in the most flattering way.

Lastly,the problemmay not be your pofile. It may be the other person's personal preference. For example, I'm a 5' 8" guy and was matched with a 5' 11" woman. Based on eHarmony's demensions of compatabilies, we were a good match. But based on the woman's profile, she said she prefers guys taller than her. Another woman closed our match because she said the age difference was too great. These are not things I can change no matter what I do to my profile. You might be in the same situation so don't drive yourself crazy wondering what's wrong with your profile.
- April 9th, 2008, 12:52 am
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I can completely relate with "happyred"! I feel that I have some excellent qualities to offer a potential partner as well... HOWEVER, I have been on eHarmony for many months now, and have not really "connected" ONCE! What's the deal? It's becoming increasingly frustrating to me! I feel that Imust not be portraiting myself correctly, eventhough I've re-read my profile multiple times in an attempt to "catch" the mistakes I'm obviously making! The men I'm interested in are not responding to me, and the ones whoARE responding... Well, they aren't exactly what I am looking for. I've even wondered if maybe I was just having a really "off" day when I completed my "personality profile"?... Because the matches I'm getting are NOT what I was expecting, and I am obviously NOT what they were expecting either! Please help me find a way OUT of "Wonderland" where everything seems backwards!
- April 9th, 2008, 11:36 am
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I've been a long time member (on and off). Sometimes the guys have said that they were closing the match due to some statements in my profile. Of course, I did not know what statements. I've been told that I'm very attractive and very intelligent. I worked as a teacher of disabled children for 25 years; but recently received a early retirement due to fibromyalgia. I'm told that I am still very fun to be around even though I have never been by nature (even before the fibro diagnosis)an extreme sports "kind of person". Right now I have a lot of time to give to the right person and right relationship. I would really appreciate your help!!!



- April 9th, 2008, 11:37 am
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I would love a profile makover. I'm a chronically single 27 year old male. Truth is, I'm not that interesting a person - I'm quiet, shy, tend to prefer staying in to going out, don't have any really cool hobbies or anything that makes me stand out. I think I'm a nice guy, but I think my profile makes me seem pretty dull.
- April 9th, 2008, 02:27 pm
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