eHarmony Profile Makeover: March 2008


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window1 is offline window1 Post #21  April 9,2008, 5:29pm
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I would love an eharmony make over. I'm really not getting any good prospects. I'm a widow, who is emotionally healthy, financially independent with a son living at home. I've gone out for coffee a few times, and once men meet me, they seem very interested, but I'm not really meeting people that live close enough and are interesting to me.
 
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lead,80083 wrote :
Help! I am very unsure about my profile. I get no responses from any of my matches, and I can't figure out why. I need help to improve my "About Me."
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It may be that all your matches are non-subscribers and therfore cannot reply. They also may be like so many people on here that seem to have no manners and think that if they are not interested then there is no need to reply even with a close.
 
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appalachiangirl,80410 wrote :
I must surely be the perfect candidate for a profile makeover. I just moved from a southern state to a northern state with a job transfer. I don't know anyone here. I am starting a new life at age 51 after having been widowed for over 10 years. Not only have I relocated to a new state, but I am also making other major changes in lifestyle by purchasing a home in a subdivision after having spent most of my life in a rural setting. I look at the pictures that I have posted and wonder how many of them I should delete because they are the old "me". I think I am a difficult match anyway, because I chose a very male dominated career path when few women even considered the possibilty. I typically avoid telling anyone that I am an engineer.
There is nothing wrong with being an engineer and female. Thirty years ago when you were in school females in engineering were very rare indeed but no longer. By the way I am a male engineer just a couple of years older than you and when I was in school there were no females in the college but have worked with many fine female engineers who have graduated from the same university and others in more recent years.

As for pictures I would recommend that you include those that depict "who you are". Part of who you are is rural part of who you are now is suburbia. Include both.
 
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mongo,80405 wrote :

I would love to have some help with my profile. I have been a member off and on for several years and I get frustrated when I get matched with women who have good potential but never respond back to me.

There must be something in my profile that is turning them away.

HELP!!!
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See comment to Lead for possibilities.
 
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hahahaha.. I recently closed all my matches because it had been about 6-8 weeks since I sent my 1st set of questions and received NO replies. And it was after being on EHarmony for many months that I updated my profile. I discovered, after answing: "Describe your personal style" many of my matches closing me. So I updated my profile to include my personal style UP FRONT. I prefer to get to the quick of it. And apparently it has worked, as I have ZERO matches now. None, nada, ziltch... So how could I NOT mention Monsters, Vampires, and Werewolves (OH MY), when somewhere down the road it will be discovered ...My kids accept my darkness and so do others 'Creatures of the Night'. I guess EH does not cater to them.
 
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Maggie162,80420 wrote :
I am very new to eHarmony, about two weeks, and I am an older lady. My answers to the questions were thoughful and fairly serious. Then I read an article that said to not be so serious. So I tried to be a little playful with my answers. I don't know if that was right or wrong. I do know that I would truly appreciate a chance at some help with all this. Let me re-phrase that, I would greatly appreciate some good help with all of this. Selling one's self in a job interview is one thing. Selling yourself to attract someone in the social arena is another thing.
Think about who you are and who you are trying to attract. If your nature is to be serious and you are trying to attact someone with a similar serious nature then you should have serious answers. You can add a little humor to spice it up.
 
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I do not get many responses as well. It is one thing to realize that a profile needs to be changed. However, it is another to figure out how to go about it. I have tried to be upbeat and show a wide variety of intrests. The way to success is something of an enigma to me.

I would be willing to accept advice if I only knew where to turn.
 
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texasfelecia,80296 wrote :
I can completely relate with "happyred"! I feel that I have some excellent qualities to offer a potential partner as well... HOWEVER, I have been on eHarmony for many months now, and have not really "connected" ONCE! What's the deal? It's becoming increasingly frustrating to me! I feel that I must not be portraiting myself correctly, eventhough I've re-read my profile multiple times in an attempt to "catch" the mistakes I'm obviously making! The men I'm interested in are not responding to me, and the ones who ARE responding... Well, they aren't exactly what I am looking for. I've even wondered if maybe I was just having a really "off" day when I completed my "personality profile"?... Because the matches I'm getting are NOT what I was expecting, and I am obviously NOT what they were expecting either! Please help me find a way OUT of "Wonderland" where everything seems backwards!
eHarmony is adamant that your first profile answers are what/who you are and you can NOT change your profile.

I would suggest that you carefully read and consider eHarmony's assesment in your profile against who you think you are. When I first read my profile I thought eHarmony had missed me completely but when I carefully read it and really considered it against who I thought I was I found it pretty close in most areas.

Read my response to Lead on non-response.

Remember that eHarmony thinks that everyone is blind and that physical atttributes have no bearing on compatibility. In real life the simple fact is that if you are REALLY turned off by a phyisical attribute it does not matter how many "29 Dimentions of Compatibility" you are perfectly matched on You are still turned off.

At least you get some matches.
 
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jfc73,80639 wrote :

I do not get many responses as well. It is one thing to realize that a profile needs to be changed. However, it is another to figure out how to go about it. I have tried to be upbeat and show a wide variety of intrests. The way to success is something of an enigma to me.

I would be willing to accept advice if I only knew where to turn.






See my comment to Lead on non-response
 
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The question of non-response keeps coming up in this thread so here is a very real possibility for the reason.

It may be that all your matches are non-subscribers and therfore cannot reply. They also may be like so many people on here that seem to have no manners and think that if they are not interested then there is no need to reply even with a close.

eHarmony says that everyone can respond even a non-subscriber, yes if that non-subscriber wants to plunk down some money and become a subscriber.
 
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