eHarmony Profile Makeover: March 2008


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KyleM is offline KyleM Post #11  April 9,2008, 1:35pm
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I havent been that long of a member, in fact I have been only on again off again since around september of 07. So far I have only really gotten any kind of response or communication from one person and it turned out she was only on eharmony as an assignment by her therapist for social anxiety disorder. I would love any kind of feedback about how to maybe bring that record up just a little bit.

I havent always been so much one for putting myself out there, but am ready to start, though that could be easier what with the matches not responding at all lol.
 
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SummerBlondy is offline SummerBlondy Post #12  April 9,2008, 1:38pm
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Texasfelicia - I'm with you! I want tall (and continue to receive SHORT) profiles and yes, SIZE DOES matter in this instance! ~smile~
 
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punkin1 is offline punkin1 Post #13  April 9,2008, 1:51pm
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I would love to have some help with my profile. I am 52 years old, have been on eharmony since Sept. 07 and have not had any great matches. Actually I have found it very difficult to have anyone respond back to my first set of questions. The matches just sit there not responding until I finally close them out--frustrating. It does seem the older one gets, the harder it is to find a match that will respond and even get to the final part of open communication. I know several people who have met on eharmony and gotten married, but they are well under 40 years old. I am delighted for them and still have hope even at my age.
 
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mongo is offline mongo Post #14  April 9,2008, 2:00pm
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I would love to have some help with my profile. I have been a member off and on for several years and I get frustrated when I get matched with women who have good potential but never respond back to me.

There must be something in my profile that is turning them away.

HELP!!!
 
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I must surely be the perfect candidate for a profile makeover. I just moved from a southern state to a northern state with a job transfer. I don't know anyone here. I am starting a new life at age 51 after having been widowed for over 10 years. Not only have I relocated to a new state, but I am also making other major changes in lifestyle by purchasing a home in a subdivision after having spent most of my life in a rural setting. I look at the pictures that I have posted and wonder how many of them I should delete because they are the old "me". I think I am a difficult match anyway, because Ichose avery male dominated career path when few women even considered the possibilty. I typically avoid telling anyone that I am an engineer.
 
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Maggie162 is offline Maggie162 Post #16  April 9,2008, 2:20pm
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I am very new toeHarmony, about two weeks, and I am an older lady.My answers to the questions were thoughful and fairly serious. Then I read an article that said to not be so serious. So I tried to be a littleplayful with my answers. I don't know if that was right or wrong. I do know that I would truly appreciate a chance at some help with all this. Let me re-phrase that, I would greatly appreciate some good help with all ofthis. Selling one's selfin a job interview is one thing. Selling yourselfto attract someonein the social arena is another thing.
 
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katemcd1 is offline katemcd1 Post #17  April 9,2008, 2:25pm
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I would love a profile makeover because I think I am a great catch and I have not been "caught" yet. I am 34, want children, a teacher, a people person. I am optomistic and a positive person. I have a rgeat outlook on life. I want a partner but am not looking for a man to give up his whole life nor do I want to become all of his! I love 2 individuals coming together as a family not merging as one! I am well educated and ambitious but not competitive. I'd love some professional help. Thanks tons!
 
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wantedwoman is offline wantedwoman Post #18  April 9,2008, 2:54pm
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i've been on eharmony for so long i must need a profile makeover!!!!
 
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illustrator is offline illustrator Post #19  April 9,2008, 3:05pm
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InfiniteLoop,80376 wrote :
I'm a chronically single 27 year old male. Truth is, I'm not that interesting a person - I'm quiet, shy, tend to prefer staying in to going out, don't have any really cool hobbies or anything that makes me stand out. I think I'm a nice guy, but I think my profile makes me seem pretty dull.
Sounds like you just described me when I was your age. I was content being the way I was. I thought if I met a woman like myself, it'd be great. We'd be happy withsimply being with each other. The problem is 2 people can be comfortable in each others company without saying much only after you've gotten to know each other. When you first meet, sitting there in silence just make things awkward.

If you think your profile makes you seem dull, it's probably because your life is dull. I don't say that to be mean. I was there too. What I've learned is you need to slowly push yourself out of your comfort zone and create new life experiences. Things you can later talk about and share in your profile. For starters, trysomething newevery month.You have 30 days to try one thing. It souldn'tbe too much pressure. Onceyour comfortalbe with doing this, try something new every 2 weeks, then something new once a week. Put it on your calendar to help you commit. Only you can truely make yourself interesting.

As for shyness, next time you go to the grocery store, smile in the rearview mirror while your in the parking lot before going into the store. You can't be feeling down if you have a big silly grin on your face (Just don't keep that grin plasteredon your face or you'll feel and look weird). When you get to the cashier, smile and say hi. If you feel she's going to think your trying to pick her up, then pick a casher your not attracted to (someone of the same gender or a senior citizen who will simpy think your just a friendly person). This little task may not seem like much, but for us shy people, it's a lot and a good start. And if you're trying new things, you'll have things to talk about. You'll also be meeting new people and that should also help with theshyness. Good luck.
 
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PurpleHermia is offline PurpleHermia Post #20  April 9,2008, 5:05pm
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I would very much like some feedback on my profile. I'm having a bit of a hard time with it because I really want to be honest about who I am and what I am (and am not) looking for (I'm just not into any games at all) but at the same time I worry that perhaps I'm not "flirty" or fun enough or something based on my site activitiy. Thank-you!
 
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